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frumtherapist
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5/6/06 11:40 PM
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I think it is great that a new thread on this topic was begun. Computer, internet, and specifically internet porn addiction is a massively growing problem in our communities. Regarding a comment that was made, I would like to share... Programs such as monitoring your internet use via a buddy CAN help, so long as your intent is to do something "curative" for your problem. In other words, if parents think their teen child has an internet problem, and they install such a program as a means of monitoring, it is highly likely to be ineffective. However, if the person who is struggling is invested on working on this problem, and utilizes such a program, it can be an additional, effective tool for a recovery process. I would also like to add that addictions such as gambling, s--, and internet are known as "process" addictions, as opposed to substance addictions, yet are no less damaging and dangerous. If somebody feels like they have a habit that had spiralled out of control and is causing them harm in some way, they should seek out competent ADDICTION therapists for an assessment and assistance.
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Debbi
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Joined: Oct 2005
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5/9/06 2:17 PM
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I have been reading here and trying to be understanding about the fact that looking at porn and/or engaging in other Sxual activities is being conveyed as an addiction. From the posts I have read, it feels almost as though a person who is addicted to pornography is on a similar standing as someone who cannot stop drinking alchohol.
I feel that on some level this is a rather disconcerting parallel. If a person is an alchoholic, he systematically destroys his own body. What kind of destruction is a person who is veiwing porn, doing to himself? (besides destroying his neshomo) Often porn films and pictures are being done by people who are being forced to expose themselves in this manner, and sometimes even abused. Lo Aleinu, I won't even mention child porn.
I guess what I am trying to convey is that I feel that the term "addict" is a way out of a certain responsibility. Once it has become an addiction, then one's responsibilty is reduced aswell as the consequences of this kind of addiction. Is the person Chas V'esholom abusing or using someone else to feed his "addiction"?
Even though I have strong feelings about this whole subject, I would however like to commend all of you who write here, for confronting your problem, and more so, of being aware of its enormity.
"helpushelpthem" I urge you to talk to a proffesional to talk about your spouse, and find the help you both need.
"Waiting" I completely agree with you, when you say that the "addict" has to want to be helped, because otherwise dont you think that his addiction could unwittingly turn into abuse?
debbi
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