there's a book called a bright red scream or s/t like that. i didn't read it but my therapist read it when i couldn't stop cutting. maybe it has answers?

i think its addicting. i got the point where i couldnt fall asleep at night unless i did it.

who me? i havent gotten over it quite yet. i still do it around once a month and lately even a little more frequently than that. the main reason i stopped was because i didnt want to disapoint a close friend of mine. but now that its winter and i wear long sleaves anyway i've started up again but not as bad.
but if you want to quit. which i don't really. but it sounds like you do.
you just have to tell yourself that this is what you want.
and that you're beautiful.
and you deserve to have a beautiful body.
free of cuts and scratches and w/e.
that G-d wants you to have a clean beautiful body.
that whatever is going on in your life it isn't your fault. and there is no reason to punish yourself.
just be strong! think of every time you want to cut as a test. a test you must pass! fight it fight it! like a person who's on a diet and just really wants that cookie! they want to fight to not have the cookie because they don't want to get the calories!
you have to fight against cutting for whatever reason it is (you don't want the scars, you don't want to hurt yourself, because of reasons to do with G-d, whatever you reasons for wanting to not do it are). so that's your battle. and just use all of whatever emotion you're going through to fight it. gather up your pain against yourself and turn it into determination and hatred towards the razor of whatever you use. you will not let a piece of metal control you!
and then you get to spend the next X minutes/hours fighting the urge and trying to distract yourself with other things.

by the way if you're interested you can go to recoveryourlife.com and they have ideas to do to distract yourself and websites with free computer games to play to distract yourself and that kind of stuff. i havent looked at the list of ideas they have but if it interests you you can go on over and have a look.

good luck!!!!!! stay strong.

sorry if i sound pathetic trying to give you advise even though i have no interest in stopping. but i've dieted in the past and i know what its like to have such a big urge to do something and to have to tell yourself no. and i have tried to stop cutting in the past and this method did help. it's just right now i don't see the point in not doing it, blah blah blah i think you read what i wrote in the other SI post so you know about that already.

KLY, you sound like someone w/ a lot of personality! Hey, at least you made me smile!

Every time I want to cut, I work at controling myself, and no kidding, it's hard, but I really want to stop so I'm doing my best. I'm actually very proud of it - I haven't done it a really long time, (although Ialmost did after arguing w/ my sister...). I want to do it for me. I know it feels like you're in control when you do it, but really, it's just the opposite. You're being controlled by the razor (or whatever you use) bec. you know it's not good for you, but feel the need to do it anyway... Yeah, I know, you've heard it all b4, but I still have to convince myself sometimes..
But as I just told my T, one of the things that make it so hard to stop, is that you can cut and nobody would know the difference. So it must be something you really want to do for yourself.

Be honest w/ your friend, if that'll be a reason for you to stop. Bring up the subject. Let her ask how you're doing, if you're still doing it...
Just a suggestion

btw, anything specific (other than winter and oppurtunity to cut and hide) that's making you cut now? Did you discuss it w/ your T?

Thanks for your tips, suggestions, encouragement...

Be well and remember, do it for YOURSELF!

SI is an addiction, its so bad that like for me when i dotn do it i have like nervous breakdowns. i cant function, but i notice that when i drink and i mean alcohol i feel better, maybe thats i why im addicted to that. lol wow im just really nuts!!! and whats even funnier is that i work on a psychiatric unit!!!!

its not pathetic. if you're cutting yourself, it obviously does something for you. There's a reason you do it. Don't let this slip-up become a full-blown relapse. Work with a therapist on understanding what you're trying to deal with by cutting. Once you know what issues/moods you're trying to control, then you can work on coming up with other methods for achieving the results you're looking for. If you're not working with a therapist, or if you're just interested for yourself, there's a REALLY good book about self-injury that you should read to help you understand the addiction. You can buy it online at Amazon.

Self-Injury: Psychotherapy with People Who Engage in Self-Inflicted Violence
Robin E. Connors - Author
Jason Aronson - Publisher
0765702649

What is the title of his book?

If there is one out there for ppl. who SI, I would be intersted in finding out more about it. Is there any such meetings for ppl. who SI? Anyone know of any? My guess is not - I've never heard anyone discuss it... but if there is one available, could you please let me know?
Thanks

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Originally posted by: Holding on
What is the title of his book?

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Cutting: Understand and Overcoming Self-Mutilation by: Steven Levenkron

I read it sitting down on the floor of Barnes and Nobles by the bookcase. I was so into it that i didnt even bother to get up and move to a chair hehe. I just remember reading through it and being able to relate to SO much. I don't think I really looked at the "overcoming" part of it because at that time I had no interest in stopping at all.

if you know of any support groups on cutting i'd like to know please let me know thanks kly and trachtg.. for the names of those books i'll look into tham when I go to the library does anyone know of any other on line chatroom for self injuring borderline personality disorder
Thanks in advance for your support and replies