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Created On 11/24/05 7:26 PM by Lev-Nishber


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Lev-Nishber
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HI, I AM MARIED TO MY WIFE FOR A FEW YEARS NOW MAYBE 5 PEOPLE KNOW THAT SHE IS ON MEDS, I HAVN'T TOLD ANY ONE IN MY FAMILY THAT SHE IS ON MEDS, SHE GOS TO A DOC 1NCE A MONTH, AND TALKS TO SOME ONE ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK, SHE HAS UPS AND DOWNS, I ASKED THE DOC WHAT THIS IS CALLED, SO MAYBE I CAN READ ON THIS, MAYBE I'LL FEEEL A DROP BETTER IF I KNOW WHAT TO DEAL WITH, (NOT THAT IT WOULD HELP PART OF THE PROBLEM IS MY WORDS DON'T COUNT WHEN SHE IS IN THAT MODE)THE DOC SAID I SHOULD READ ON BI POLAR, SHE CAN BE IN A VERY BAD MOOD FOR A WEEK AND HALF TO 2 WEEKS , AND THEN GET REGULAR, i CAN CALL IT NORMAL, BUT THERE IS SOMTHING GOING ON MOST OF THE TIME. I WAS WOUNDERING WHAT symptoms OTHERS HAVE WHEN THEY HAVE BIPOLAR ? AND WHAT DO SPOUS'S DO WHEN THERE OTHER HALF IS LIKE THAT?

I HAVE TO AGREE THAT THIS IS NOT GOOD FOR MY STOMACH, I DO HAVE ALOT OF PRESSURE FROM THIS, I MY SELF FEEL VERY PRESSURED LATLY THE WORST THING I'M AFRAID OF IS GETTING SICK.

I HAVE 2 SWEET VERY YOUNG CHILDREN, AND I PRAY EVERY DAY THAT THEY SHOULD ALLWAYS BE IN A GOOD MOOD, I TRY SO HARD TO MAKE THEM LAUGHT AND SMILE, WHILE ME MY SELF IS ALLWAYS BUSY WITH STRESS IN THE HOUSE.

ANY IN PUT WOULD BE APPPRICIATED.



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Lev-
Sounds to me that you are a very sensitive and supportive husband- yeshar koach! IY'H, as your wife becomes more stable on meds (I am assuming she takes them, although that is often a problem with poeple labelled bipolar), her moods will become more tolerable for everyone!
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Hi, yes she takes one med in the AM one in the PM,
Its not easy at all, I am with here for 6 years, there are allot of issues that I have a hard time handling emotionally,

I'll mention a few things,

The thing is I don't have who to share it with; I keep everything in my stomach,
My wife doesn’t appear to understand or agnoladge that I'm having a hard time as well but in a different sense,
obviously we have a hard time communicating sometimes because most of the time its my way or no way with her, I'm not saying she is doing to be a mean person its just the fact that she is that way, she can't think different then her opinion, what really bothers me with this is that the people she talks with express it in a way like yes I know you 2 have a problem communicating, I understand that they have to make her feel good. But I always think about this that people don't really know what I’m going thru, like I'm the hard husband on her. I can’t express to you how much I give in or don't do at all because of her situation. Bottom line its tuff out there.

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One more thing how do i realy know if it BP , can anyone descibe some symtoms please???
 
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Hi L.N.

I am sorry to hear how difficult things are for you.

I do not have any experience with Bipolar Disorder except for what I have read on my own.

There are however numerous websites, filled with information. I have checked out the following site, and it seems to be quite informative without being too clinical.

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report2/

I realise that you would probably like a more personal reply, perhaps from people who are going through similar experiences.
I hope you will find the support here that you are looking for.

Best wishes.
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Lev-Nishber,
In addition to the helpful suggestion of looking at websites to educate yourself about bipolar, you may want to consider individual therapy and/or a support group, so that you have a forum to vent and share with others. Your concerns, feelings and issues are totally valid.
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Lev-Nishber
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Hi, do you know anyone that signed up with that site you gave me the link to??

Thank
 
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no, sorry I don't know anyone.
I found the web site in direct response to your quest for help.

But there are lots of sites you can search.

All u need to do is type in BIPOLAR and then browse thru the sites until u find something of interest.

Much Hatzlocho.
 
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hi, lev, i myself am bipolar. it is difficult for me and those around me. but we get through it. i'm taking meds now (you can look up all the meds i'm on, they're listed in the "bi polar" section of this topic --it is really spelled bipolar, but some people just don't know how to spell here, i guess!) anyway, convince her (your wife) to take the meds. i know she really won't want to, as i didn't but the truth is they really help. you've got to go to a good doc though, one who knows medicine, but that costa a lotta moola. maybe you can find a pro bono doc if you can't afford it, i know they exist (i'm not assuming you can't afford one, but good psychopharmacologists/med docs/ bipolar shrinks/ psychiatrists-- not psychologists-- psychiatrists-- meaning one who treats disorders with medications, can be expensive-- for anyone-- including me-- even though i live at home right now and my parents pay for it through a trust fund/account my grandfather left me before he died.)

i still don't wanna take my meds and have to be coaxed every night-- one reason i don't live alone because my parents are afraid i won't take them-- which they're probably right. but i don't swallow pills anymore, like i used to-- i refuse to-- so i drink the lith, depa, and ativans in chocolate soymilk. it's gross. but it's better than pills, which i had to swallow with applesauce anyway that i kept gagging on. i take a meltaway zyprexa-- thank god for modern medicine-- which really clinched my bpd when i was sick, a long time ago, so that i must keep taking. what can i say? i don't want to admit it, but the meds helped. my mind is much quieter these days and focused on school, family, and friends, and not just being sick.

symptoms of bpd: unwillingness to get out of bed, lack of sleep, too much sleep, rapid speech, racing thoughts, thoughts of suicide, mood swings, grandiosity, partaking in risky behavior, these are some.

lev, better talk to a good doc or social worker/ counclor so you can get the help you need.

but in the meantime, don't give up, keep going, there's a light at the end of the tunnel even if you can't see it, always remember that. and stay positive. i'm always here to talk to you-- and so are a lot of others on here

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my meds are being slowly lowered! woohoo! wish me luck, people, i'll sure need it, even though my life is going considerably better. we have a fashion show coming up-- i have to be cool calm and collected for the event-- to make my best impression and put my best foot foraward. wish me mazal. i don't want the mazal train to leave without me on it.

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i've got to go to class now, people. bye!

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The good thing is my wife B"H never denied the problem and allways takes her meds, it had to be changed a few times but she follows instructions,
I can say some of her symtoms are ,, talking very fast, nervous to my suggestions, mood swings is the big one, and it could last for 2 weeks sometimes, latly she is afraid of fire breaking out in the house when we sleep,, she wants me to buy a latter that can be put out the window, and some more...

I feel very bad when she calls her friends about it, but on the other hand she is lucky in one way that she can spill the beans, I don't have one person that I feel that if I tell him he won't carry it further. A friend of here admited that she was on meds her self, I don't think people make these things up to make you feel good.


I did search on the net for these groups, I got a book from barnes and nobles never got to read it, (How to love a spouse with bi polar )

I just toght hairing first hand is a better picture.
Thanks all,

 
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bcareful of xyprexa been shown to cause diebetes
but then again if you have found a med that helps you and is a great stabilizer and your docs say go with it then do not let me discourage you


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married to a wonderful woman when we met I knew she wss bipolar but did not understand fully what this ment
she had an episode right by our wedding
what a wonderful sheva brachos and shana rishona we had... will add more to the saga tomorrow


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i'm on zyprexa-- i have to be careful. i hope when iget married i get better.

atara


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Dear Lev-Nishber
How good that your wife is taking her meds!
Just si you know where I am coming from, my husband seems to have a VERY MILD case of BiPolar---refuses to take meds. We managed until he self-medicated himself with alcohol and drugs. We had a TERRIBLE 4 years. Finally he realized that it was family or drugs, and he gave up the drugs. He has been OK now for nearly a year, and I pray that it continues. (But it very well may not, as he doesn't take meds...)
Your role, as I see it, is to show her that you are standing by her (especially as she is trying), and encourage her. Give her the warm family that makes it worthwhile to work towards a goal of being better.


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i think the best option is to take the meds because the more meds you take, the less likely you will have to be on meds later. better yet, the meds you take now, if you take what you're supposed to, will reduce your chance of having to take them later. yeah, that's what i MEANT to say. i should know, i've lived it. tell your brother this, see what he says

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sorry, lev, i meant to say your wife, duh, not your brother. if your wife is taking her meds good for her! tell her it will prevent her from having to take them later! ( i think my mind was still on another thread-- the my brother has bipolar thread. sorry. i'm trying to write too much in too little time, i'm getting confused!)

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Hi I am glad that you're wife is taking her meds. Unfortunatley my daughter was married to some one who was bipolar but he never took his meds even when she told him he had to. He became verbally and physically abusive to her and now he is trying to avoid giving her the get because he knows he won't be able to get married again it is a sad situation for everyone.
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matzoball--- i think they should get divorced and he should start over and so should she. just my honest opinion. things usually turn out better when things have a fresh start. just my humble honest opinion.

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