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Created On 4/24/13 4:55 PM by schg123


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I'm not sure why, but over the years I have come to be embarrassed of my body (physically) and to hate physical touch. This is a real problem, mostly because I am married, and am having obvious issues doing what I should be (I don't want to be explicit on a public forum). I have managed to hide it thus far, but I need help desperately. Is there anything I can do (short of therapy, because I don't want anyone to find out, and anyway I'd be way too embarrassed)?
 
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4/24/13 11:56 PM
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No advice here, but welcome! Are you a man or a woman?
 
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thanks. woman
 
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Do you have any history of abuse?
 
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I was never abused baruch hashem. Which is why this is weird. but when anyone touches, i jump.
 
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When did it start? Did anything trigger it? Could this be OCD?
 
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I think it was always like this except that it never really affected me. Now it does.
 
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i hope its okay if i interject. i just heard about online therapy. maybe you can do something like that so its really private.


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how does it work?
 
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did you ever hear of MoodGYM? Does it work?
 
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i dont know. i saw someone who liked it on facebook, from israel. maybe thru skype? you can google it.


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any suggestions other than therapy?
 
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I think you'd have to explain it more. How does it feel? Did you enjoy being with your husband before? How long have you been married? Has anything changed at all? Do you have any other mental health symptoms? Do you have kids? Are you on any medication? Are you on birth control?
 
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I am ok talking to him but not physically. no other symptoms. one kid. no meds. on birth control.
 
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i dont know if this is helpful but i was looking at a book in the library called 'to touch is to live'. she explained why people dont want to touch in this society and the reasons behind touching, the effects etc. Im sorry if this is not my place here. just wanted to mention the book in the slight chance it might help.


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Star, why would it not be your place? Thank you for the recommendation. I'll go get it Monday and check it out.
 
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I meant to ask if you enjoyed intimacy before. Trying to stay tzniusdig. What do you use for birth control? Is it hormonal? How old is your child?
 
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Also, does this come up only with your husband? Are you OK with your child hugging you? What about a friend?
 
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Sorry, i didn't understand your question. No, I never enjoyed intimacy. I use Camilla, no it is not hormonal because I am nursing. My child is still a baby. I am ok with him completely but not with my friends or any other adult.
 
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So you would never want anyone to hug you?
What would you feel if they did?
 
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