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Created On 11/30/05 1:31 AM
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switchbladexxx
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im a female, freshman in college. and, yes, im addicted to cigarettes. ive tried quiting many times but because of my depression and all of my stress and anxiety i fall back on the nasty habit, which turns to more than jsut a habbit, but an addiction. girls just arent supposed to smoke. many guys smoke but jewish girls are totaly and completely looked down upon for this. its so hard! i started because i was bored and just wanted something to do. so i was like ill see what its like. and then it just became something i did more and more...until i realized i just couldnt stop. i just NEEDED one "last" cigarette. uch. gross. and the worst part of it is. i dont even REALLY mind. i dont think its so gross, i just want to stop because most other people look down on it...ALOT. and hi, i want to get married one day, but who's gonna marry a girl who smokes? just wondering- has anyone else got sucked into this terrible annoying addiction?
 
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11/30/05 1:52 PM
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Switch - You might be a girl, but your right, addiction doesn't discriminate. It cuts across all lines of gender, culture, wealth, etc.
Nicotine addiction is one of the hardest addictions to overcome; the average smoker attempts to quit 4-6 times before successfully quitting for good. Nicotine enters your body as a gas, and almost immediately hits the pleasure pathways in your brain.
I will share some thoughts. Don't despair; although it is hard to quit an addiction, it IS doable- I'd be out of business it it wasn't.
Find yourself an addictions therapist and/or a Recovery support group- you can use ALL the healthy support you can get to get through the tough times. Expect to invest a complete year of effort and struggle in this - I know some people who reported to me that they thought they were in the clear after 6 months, but the truth is, you are really vulnerable to relapse for a full year - after that, you've achieved something truly meaningful.
Provide yourself with incentives - positive and negative reinforcements:
e.g. A: everytime you smoke a cigarette, give $20 to the political party you hate! (you can also give it to your favorite charity; whatever works for you)
DO it for real though- it works if you work it!
B: After 1 week of abstinence, treat yourself to something. After 30 days, treat yourself to something nicer. After 6 months, and after 1 year - pre-plan what these incentives will be; make them progressively bigger and more special.
C: Add up how much money you spend on cigarettes - figure out what you'll do with all the money you've saved.
D: Do you have a spiritual life? Do you pray? Make your quitting journey an integral part of your prayers - read up on the 12 Steps and its concept of a Higher Power and "giving it over" - an active spiritual life can be really helpful!

These are all concrete ideas about how to go about your attempt at quitting - feel free to ask me anything you are unclear about...
and Hatzlacha! Just contemplating about your unhealthy habit is a big step in the right direction!



Edited: 11/30/05 at 1:53 PM by frumtherapist
 
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killedlastyear
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hehe. that used to be me. i'd forgotten my old name thing and made a new one. anway i'm happy to say i've stopped smoking. weee.
 
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you stopped smoking weed?
lol
no seriously was that weed or weeeeeeeeeeeee like yeah!!
when u tell me im goin to feel very stupid...
lol
but weed isnt good. ive smoke it and i actually didnt feel anything (the first time)


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"life is like a box of chocolates always too many nuts and never enough caramels."
 
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killedlastyear
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Originally posted by: emptysmile
you stopped smoking weed?
lol
no seriously was that weed or weeeeeeeeeeeee like yeah!!
when u tell me im goin to feel very stupid...
lol
but weed isnt good. ive smoke it and i actually didnt feel anything (the first time)


sorry i never saw this. it was weeeeeeee like in "yay" though i havent smoked weed in a while either so i guess it goes for anything smokable.
 
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How can I help a friend of mine, (also a female btw, KLY) who smokes to deal w/ her situation? She has it really hard and smokes to get some relief. She can sometimes smoke 5-6 cigars a day and then go w/o any for 4-5 days... She knows it harms her, but doesn't care, (or does care, but feels the need to smoke anyway). It really hurts me to see her harming herself this way.
Any suggestions are really appreciated.
Thank you
 
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killedlastyear
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11/6/06 7:50 PM
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hey i just noticed your reply. i don't know if this is true or not but i think different people get addicted different amounts. like it honestly wasnt THAT hard for me to quit. like i just said "i'm going to quit. i want to feel healtheir." and i just quit. and once in a while i slipped up but hardly at all. and whenever i did have just one cigarette it really was just one. i didnt feel the need to have 20. i was able to just have one. and now once in a while i get a craving for one but i'm able to just tell myself to forget about it. other people who've quit have had a lot harder times with it. even people who were smoking for a very short period of time.
so i don't know what there is to do to help her since i didn't have such a big struggle with it.

all i can suggest is looking on the internet or in the library for ways to help her.

sorry.
 
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Holding on
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11/7/06 9:39 PM
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Hey, it's okay. I'm glad it was rather easy for you. I might check online for sites ?
Happy to hear you're on your way to a healthier lifestyle (2) !!

Way to go!!
 
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1/23/08 12:31 PM
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haha im just a dork i started again. i just saw that i'd posted this i forgot all about that. my original post was from '05! it seems like yesterday. so weird how time goes by so quickly!

addictions are so dumb and i feel like they just breed off of one another. like once you have one you start others to try to calm the stress or anxiety and/or other "side effects" caused by the presence, or the lack (withdrawal symptoms i suppose they're called), of another addiction (wow that was one annoying sentence). anyone else find this to be true?
 
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I've never smoked, so I can't say about that, but with the addiction thing in general, yeah.
Like now, lately, idk why, probably having to do with what's going on in T... I find that I need to feel some control so I've sort of taken it to the food - How much I eat...
It's soo stupid of me, bec. the last thing I need right now is another 'addiction'/problem, and I know it, but I'm still doing it (not too much, but what scares me is that that's how almost everything starts off).
So yeah...
I feel pretty confident saying that I've stopped SI-ing, (this Fri. will be 1 month free) but if I'm starting this...
Idk anything anymore. I'm just very confused right now.
 
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