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TOPIC TITLE: Small Steps II
Created On 5/12/13 2:05 AM
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MoMo
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This a place for anyone and everyone to share the positive small steps we take to better ourselves.
(The first thread was getting too long so I started a fresh one)
 
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MoMo
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5/12/13 2:09 AM
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Small steps I took:
I went walking.
I met up tonight with an old friend just to catch up..
I called another old friend and made up to meet later this week.
I was struggling in my relationship with my brother so I spoke it over with some people and got encouragement.
 
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Whoa...who's the social butterfly now????? LOL....good to hear things are going positive in some aspects for you. My pain came back so I'm back on pain medication, but I had guests for shabbbos (they were delicious ) and I stayed up for the entire meal. Oh yeah, and I'm not depressed over the pain thing....I feel hopeful that the final procedure will be a success now!!!!


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MoMo
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Sorry about the pain!!!

I'm hardly a social butterfly, I'm just trying to not be so lonely....

Did you have your guests sauteed or fried?
 
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MoMo
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5/13/13 12:54 AM
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Small steps I took:

Put in a full day of work despite being depressed.
Actively arranged a minyon for a shiva house.
Davened with a Minyon.
Spent time offering my support and sympathy for my younger brother who just broke off with a girl he was dating. I took him out to eat and heard him out.
I helped arrange a car service for an israeli fellow who was having a hard time.
I met some old classmates at a School function and made up to keep in touch with them.
I agreed to drive my grandmother around tomorrow just to show that I am there for her.

I"m a drop hyper now. I was deeply depressed earlier today. I hate these swings!!!!!!
 
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5/13/13 7:08 AM
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Hi, Momo.
I can relate. I can also swing from being depressed to moving on high speed.
At least, it's better than not doing anything.
But I try to tell myself, slow down, slow down.
Hope you have a good day.
 
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MoMo
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5/19/13 3:48 AM
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Small steps:
I attended both Shabbos seudas.
I said divrei Torah
I davened marriv with minyon
I said havdala with kavana
I went on a date tonight and carried myself well. I was courteous and mentchlach.
I was nice to my developmentally delayed sibling
I showed hakaras hatov to people who went out of their way to help me
I tried my best not to let the toxicity of parents home get to me (I was only minimally successful at this. But at least i tried...)
 
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5/19/13 11:25 PM
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That's great, Momo!

Here's mine. A relative who is staying at my house now complained this morning that we didn't have any soy milk, and that the milk we have has too much fat and is not healthy. My first reaction was to blame myself and beat myself up for forgetting to get soy milk. I should have known that this relative is always on some sort of diet. But then I thought, wait a second! I've been hosting a lot of people over Yom Tov and Shabbos, and I prepared lots of delicious food for all the meals. I did a pretty good job! I did so much! Why should I beat myself over a small tiny detail that I forgot about? Why should I expect myself to do everything perfectly and remember soy milk among a the hectic Yom Tov preparations?

That was a huge step for me, actually. In the past, I would have blamed myself and felt really bad. But now it occurred to me that what this relative said wasn't exactly nice. If I were a guest at someone's house I would not complain about their food. I would never tell them that the milk has too much fat or whatever. That's an even bigger step for me, to recognize that other people in my life are responsible for their actions too. Not everything in the world is my fault!
 
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MoMo
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5/20/13 2:03 AM
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HopefulMom, you are 100% right!

I'm repulsed that a guest would have the audacity to complain like that!!
We cannot let other people's m'shgasen determine our value!!!
 
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