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TOPIC TITLE: Say Hi If You're Still Alive
Created On 8/12/13 10:02 PM
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mouse
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Thank you TBear for the insight and advice from someone's who's been there. I can accept my daughter for herself on some level, but I can't help but think she can't. She already says she doesn't want to have kids because she's scared of passing down her genes -- and she doesn't even KNOW about ME yet. She thinks she has a perfectly normal mom, so when she finds out I'm scared she'll really swear off having kids. And she's only 11. . I guess I"m not to hopeful of a happy outcome which is sad because I know I should be the cheerleader, not the one in the audience wondering if she'll make the score .


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I have two kids with serious issues, and it's really hard for a mother to deal with. Somehow, we take things too personally and it can destroy us if we're not careful.
Besides acceptance, it's important to believe that Hashem can help even if the situation looks impossible. B"H, one of my toughies is already married for a while. He has an excellent wife, b"h, and they do so well together. It's truly a miracle, but, we have to remain positive.
So Tbear is right, step back as much as you can, and keep hoping and praying.
It will be good.
 
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((((((((((((((((HUGS TO ALL)))))))))))))))))))
 
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mouse
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Thank you, keep climbing for your encouraging words. HUGS back channa .


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Today, I need support in dealing with one of my toughies. I keep back as much as I can so I'll stay sane, but sometimes it really hurts. And my own uplifting words are just not enough right now. Help!
 
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Oy
I don't know what to say to help but I feel for you!
 
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Keepclimbing - just saw this - whats going on? You know that G-d gave you this "toughy" because you are the best parent for him/ her.....

You always give such supportive comments here - I am sure you can give the kind of discipline that uplifts and smooths over.

when all else fails I daven and cling to the verse in Mishlei that says "...love covers a multitude of sins..." Even when we make mistakes as parents as long as it is out of love for the child then there is a covering over - the message gets through that they are loved, valued and that it is OK to even make mistakes (we as the parent or them as the child). You can do it!
 
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Keep climbing...I just read your post. I have confidence you will pull through with inner stregnth. Keep your chin up.

On another note,my kids got through the first day of school. My daughter seems happy with her classes and teachers. She was tired and stressed out at the end of the day, but it worked out.


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Munkster - so glad the first day went well! Great that she likes the classes and teachers - it is normal, I think , to be drained after the first day.

I only have 3 to get out the door these days - the rest are on their own schedules, older - but even then, this week - Monday: 2 out of 3 were on time, the next day - a different 2 out of 3 were on time and yesterday all 3 were on time!! Today is dragging however (perhaps because I am posting :-) )..... Funny how I tend to focus on... one is late not the 2 on time.... ugh



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keep climbing
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Thanx, Tbear and Munkster. Your words helped me this morning.
Also, I went to my therapist. That usually helps, but sometimes I find myself more emotional and teary on that day. Anyone relate?
 
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Keep climbing I totally relate. I usually get suicidal after therapy sessions especially if it was a hard one.


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Sometimes you need to run away just to see who will follow you.

Sometimes when I say "I'm okay", I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say "I know you are not".

Just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm happy.
 
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Yes, KC....I get emotional after seeing my therapist. If not emotional, just tired and drained. I think it's normal (at least for me.) Also your "only 3 to get out the door" cracked me up....I have "ONLY 2!!!!" and it's still a challenge...not getting out the door but when they come home.


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