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TOPIC TITLE: Difficulties Studying
Created On 9/12/13 8:53 PM
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MoMo
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In order to learn something new that you don't know yet you sometimes have to face that you don't know some things and it's tough.

I am studying for a math class and I'm getting anxious because I don't know the material. It's so hard for me to face that I don't know things.
Also I expect myself to understand things quickly but I happened to be a slow learner.

Maybe that's what pirkei avos means when it says Lo Habeishan Lomed


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It's perfectionism. I need to be clear in things and I can't tolerate the process of learning since it takes time till you know it and I can't tolerate that -it's scary for me.

I suspect that the antidote is to go through the period of not knowing with an extra dose of self live and understanding.
Also to just be with the hard feelings and the fear and frustration -sit with the feeling.

Also on a cognitive level is it really so bad not to know something?
So I'm totally lost for a while. Big deal!

Does anyone else relate to any of this?
 
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Sometimes slow learning can be an advantage.
By learning something slowly, a person can sometimes understand it more fully and intricately.

It should be with hatzlocho.
 
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The first step is to tolerate the fear and frustration i.e. not get frustrated that I'm frustrated...
What I read is that you need to listen to the feeling and hear it out and hear what its trying to say.
 
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Sometimes, when a subject is beyond me, I might take a piece of paper and outline the idea.
Seeing it out of the original text is sometimes helpful.
 
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Sometimes, if something isn't penetrating, it can be helpful to look at a different topic or different book, and then to later come back to it.
 
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gad
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When feelings of doubt and frustration come, it can be helpful to think that 'it will be good.'
 
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MoMo
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Thank you Gad!!
I'll try that.
I want you to know that I appreciate that you care. It means something to me.


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You're welcome.

Hope to hear good news.
Gemar chasima toivo
 
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