Login
Questions or Comments!
admin@frumsupport.com

Get FrumSupport News! Join our mailing list.
Email:


Search

Navigation:

 Tehilim List  < Refresh >
TOPIC TITLE: Depression and yom tov
Created On 9/23/13 4:31 PM
Topic View:

View thread in raw text format


Lasthope
Senior Supporter

Posts: 514
Joined: Feb 2013

9/23/13 4:31 PM
User is offline

I think the yamim tovim are hardest for me. You think it would be the opposite with all the partying, family stuff etc. but its not. I see so many people around me who seem to be so happy. Of cpurse i sont know whats really going on in their lives. But im almost sure most people dont live with the demons that i have iny head. People can enjoy themselves, get together with loved ones and just have a nice time.
Yom tov reminds me of my family that i miss because they are so far away. Reminds me of all the lost relationships i have in my life, of friends that i would love to see in theory but dont have emotional energy or interest to get together with. And wht makes it worse is that it says "visamachta bichagecha" and i just dont see how? I see others can so it, but i am lost in my own world of subtle yet deep depression.
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



gad
Senior Supporter

Posts: 1458
Joined: Jan 2006

9/23/13 5:05 PM
User is offline

That's exactly when Torah is recognized in this world. When it's difficult to be happy, and we still try, that becomes a wow factor. That's when G-d's presence becomes so strongly established.
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



emunahdoj
Senior Supporter

Posts: 247
Joined: Apr 2008

9/23/13 8:28 PM
User is offline

Lasthope- Yom tov is the worst trigger for me also. Just a reminder of the fact that I have no friends and don't like where I live
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



MoMo
Senior Supporter

Posts: 1497
Joined: May 2009

9/23/13 9:10 PM
User is offline

Same here it's a terrible time for me. It accentuates all the issues I have: loneliness, social anxiety, etc.

It'll pass and next year might different.
But it's painful.
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



Lasthope
Senior Supporter

Posts: 514
Joined: Feb 2013

9/24/13 12:41 PM
User is offline

Thanks for the sympathy. I guess misery loves company so its kind of comforting to know im not the only one.
Gad, what do u mean "thats when torah is recognized in the world" ? I hear what ur saying about trying even if its hard... I do try so hard... I just dont get why Hashem gives a commandment "visamachta bichagecha" and then makes a person emotionally sick where being happy is like almost impossible. Depression makes no sense.
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



gad
Senior Supporter

Posts: 1458
Joined: Jan 2006

9/24/13 3:33 PM
User is offline

Our job is to try.
Success depends on Hashem.
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



gad
Senior Supporter

Posts: 1458
Joined: Jan 2006

9/24/13 4:01 PM
User is offline

And eventually, we will succeed.
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



MoMo
Senior Supporter

Posts: 1497
Joined: May 2009

9/24/13 4:12 PM
User is offline

I feel like crying over feeling so stuck and so alone.
I feel so unlikable. I feel so much shame.
It feels like I have no right to exist since I am so deficient and behind.

I want to cry but there is no one to cry to. I am supposed to be past this already.
How will I ever give myself the confidence I lack?

Everything feels hopeless.

All I really ever needed was a parent to hold me tight and show me that I'm ok. I got the opposite so here I am today still stuck.


Edited: 9/24/13 at 4:13 PM by MoMo
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



gad
Senior Supporter

Posts: 1458
Joined: Jan 2006

9/24/13 4:53 PM
User is offline

Right now you are planting. Or zorua latzadik -- light is planted for the righteous.

And one day soon we will experience true joy. Uliyishrei leiv simcha -- and to the righteous of heart, happiness.

 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     

View thread in raw text format
FORUMS > Depression < Refresh >

Navigation:

The information in this site is not intended to replace the advice of a doctor. FrumSupport disclaims any liability for the decisions you, the User, makes based on information on this site. By using this site, reading, viewing, posting or otherwise, you signify your assent to the Terms and Conditions of Use. If you do not agree to all these Terms and Conditions of Use, please do not use this site. FrumSupport may revise and update these Terms and Conditions of Use at anytime. Your continued usage of FrumSupport will mean you accept those changes.

If you think you or someone you know has a medical emergency, call your doctor, Hatzolah or 911 immediately. FrumSupport cannot and does not monitor forums and postings and cannot and will not pro-actively obtain help for users in need as FrumSupport does not have the funds or people power to accomplish such tasks and it will infringe on the anonymity of each user. Therefore, FrumSupport’s liability is limited by this paragraph and as further set forth in the Terms and Conditions of Use.