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TOPIC TITLE: Shabbos Guilt
Created On 12/7/13 11:53 AM
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Lasthope
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12/7/13 11:53 AM
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Shabbos can be so hard sometimes with depression, and I feel worse cuz it's a time we are supposed to be happier and all that crap. It was such a hard one. The kids were ESPECIALLY difficult, with constant tantrums, complaining, fighting. I just don't get it. Life if hard enough without depression. How and why could Gd do this to us. Being a frum Jew and depression don't seem to go together. But I can't let go, I don't let go.
 
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TBear
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12/7/13 7:42 PM
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Sorry it was a tough day - sometimes I think - OK G-d you have given me some REAL challenges - help! but we aren't supposed to ask for help on Shabbos - are we?

Hard for me as well - Want to spend fun time with family - children.....but end up frustrated and numb.....
I was supposed to learn with a friend and slept instead - then to a Shalosh Seudas for one of the kid's schools - I left and while walking home just couldn't quit crying - it was dark enough and I was alone....but when around others - I paste on the smile - not supposed to be sad......

Rabbi Lazer Brody wrote once:, "During personal prayer, it's perfectly okay to cry. The thing we should remember is that we're crying for Hashem to help us through our difficult challenges, and not crying and complaining..." but I always wonder how that plays out with Shabbos.....

 
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keep climbing
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12/7/13 7:44 PM
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I have a pretty hard time with Shabbos, too. I miss my distractions.
About the guilt; I'm long past that. It's just not in my control. I can't and won't feel guilty about something that's totally not my fault.
I agree with what you said on the other thread--it's those days and moments that we feel well that give us the ability ( I won't say strength, but it probably is) to keep going and keep hoping.
 
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Lasthope
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12/8/13 6:41 AM
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Tbear, I think we can ask for help anytime. Just when I take my medicine on Shabbos I don't say the special yehi ratzon cuz "shabbos hi milizug, refuah shleima krevoa lavo".
keep climbing, yes, those times are the only things that keep me going. like lightning in a dark storm.
 
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