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TOPIC TITLE: Good Bye
Created On 12/16/13 9:36 PM
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TBear
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12/16/13 9:36 PM
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I am leaving and have asked Admin how to delete my profile

Forgive me if I have offended anyone - it was not my intention - you guys are an inspiration - I am just too down and too fragile to be here.

Be Well - I'll be davening for you guys!
 
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I'mTrying
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12/16/13 10:08 PM
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NONONONOOOOOOOO
Please TBear, I don't often post anymore but you are one of the most inspiring people I know. I understand if you made a decision to leave based on facts and I respect that. But if it has something to do with posts being misinterpreted, please give it another go.
Mybe it's selfish on my part....
I will truly miss your wisdom and courage.
 
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12/17/13 1:44 AM
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TBear, please don't leave. You are an inspiration to others and we all need each other. I understand your being hurt, it's very understandable. Please remember that we all all hurting, including those who hurt. You are too good to leave us.
 
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HopefulMommy
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12/17/13 1:56 AM
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TBear, I'm not exactly sure what happened but please don't leave! You add so much to the forum. We've been through other issues here before, and we made it through. Let's keep this place going!
 
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MoMo
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12/17/13 2:23 AM
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Tbear I understand you 100%!!!!
I'm so sorry that you were put through the ringer when you meant no harm at all!!
You have no idea how much you mean to us!!!
I seriously don't know anyone sweeter than you!!!
 
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mouse
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12/17/13 4:53 AM
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Tbear....I'm not sure what to say. A tear is going down my cheek...literally. I love your wisdom and insights and it would be a shame if you didn't share with us. Please think before leaving this community. You are a valued member.


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All the king's horses and all the king's men couldn't put Humpty Dumpty together again.
 
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keep climbing
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12/17/13 5:04 AM
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Tbear, please stay! Especially for me now. I just left my therapist this week, and I'll be devastated if you leave as well.
I know it's hard to stick your neck out here and then get hurt, it's the last thing you need when you're only trying to be supportive.
 
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TBear
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12/17/13 6:23 AM
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Your responses are beyond amazing to me - I have been crying all night - but also the night before and before - I am sinking very deep and cannot even let my kids or community know - so I isolate and paste on the smile and work and robotically function.

It isn't the specific incident - I know that anyone who comes here is vulnerable - so am I. It is my reaction to the incident that tells me I am too fragile to be here at least for now. Since you guys have responded so much - which means more than I have words to describe - I feel you deserve more of an explanation. I do love each and every one of you to the extent that is possible over the internet - I gave each one, by cybername, a bracha - in detail on my b'day because I see and feel your burdens. Also why I left a good bye post rather than just disappearing.

Right now I am going through new memories and new pieces emerging and the DID is giving me some horrible challenges - in addition to the fact that my kids and financial stressors do not let up just because I am having emotional problems. I am losing time and being triggered by things that usually do not. So, when I am triggered - it is my responsibility to take care of myself even if the way I do is painful - such as leaving here. I am responsible for my reactions - no one else. I am not blaming anyone. This is about me trying my best to stay safe. If I get through this without being hospitalized it will be a gift from Ha Kodesh Baruch Hu.

Hopefully I will be back at some future time a better Bear. Please daven for me and I will be thinking of you guys - may even watch from the sidelines without posting - just cannot let myself be vulnerable - for my own safety.

Thank you for caring.

 
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keep climbing
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12/17/13 6:32 AM
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We will daven for you, and think of you, Tbear. You are not alone.
 
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mouse
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12/17/13 8:17 AM
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ok, Bear. I understand I guess. I'll miss you. You're BEST BEAR. Don't forget that.


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All the king's horses and all the king's men couldn't put Humpty Dumpty together again.
 
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MoMo
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12/17/13 10:54 AM
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Ok. I fully understand and accept that.
Take care of yourself the best that you can I'll be playing for you.
You are not alone!!!

p.s. without knowing any details it sounds like the fact that you need to keep your pain a total secret is really causing so much more pain. I wish there was a way for you to find more real life support to me it seems that simply not needing to always hide would ease the pain...
Maybe there's SOMEONE in your community you can trust and talk to who would care and accept and whom you can trust?? Every community has some good people...
 
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MoMo
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12/17/13 10:55 AM
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Correction: I'll be PRAYING for you
 
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