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TOPIC TITLE: Pesach....the aftermath
Created On 4/23/14 8:23 PM
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mouse
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I'm still not completely switched over from Pesach mode to chometz . I feel like I was a total failure the entire Pesach because I didn't cook too much or clean too much after each meal. I felt like every time I cooked I had to clean and the process kept repeating until I was tired...maybe 3 rounds at a time wwhich meant starvation on our part . Furthermore, today both my kids go hurt. One hurt her foot when silverware dropped on it and the other hurt his arm gardening (and the plants didn't make it inot the ground yet either!!!!) I feel defeated. Like I won't ever win so bother. I'm so tired adn those urges are coming back with a vengeance again. I think in particular because Yizkor reminded me of my losses (my parents) and I have quite a bit of guilt surrounding both of their deaths. It's too much to process or cope with. Also it was recently the yahrtzeit of my grandfathers.


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4/23/14 9:00 PM
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You write that you felt like a total failure, then you write that you didn't cook too much or clean too much.

But you did cook and clean. So that can't be a total failure.

You write that you feel that you won't ever win, so why bother. But it sounds like you did win quite a bit, like the aforementioned cooking and cleaning that you did do. And when your kids hurt themselves, I assume that you were there for them to give comfort. If so, that's a win.

As for parents and grandparents, that's a hard one. But very soon moshiach is coming, and they will become alive again, and that will surely add happiness.

Hope to hear good news
 
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4/24/14 12:17 AM
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I really feel for you those are all difficult things. I don't know what else to say that'll be helpful...

Would therapy help deal with the guilt and feelings of failure etc?
 
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4/24/14 1:55 AM
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Munkster, (((hugs))). Pesach is hard. But you survived. So you didn't fail. You managed to get through.
 
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4/24/14 6:43 AM
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These crazy expectations that we have of ourselves!! I "should" be able to do this, and that and this and that! Then we're never satisfied with anything! We're all guilty of this selfbashing, and it's killing us!
Can we move forward together and say-it's o.k. Whatever I can do, it's o.k. and I'm o.k.?
 
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mouse
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4/24/14 7:28 PM
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Thanks for the support folks ....MoMo...therapy would be helpful if it didn't land on TUESDAYS!!!!!! Oh well. Waiting for this Tuesday to roll around .


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Youre almost there Munkster! almos tuesday!!
 
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4/27/14 8:28 AM
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Congrats to everyone here for making it through Pesach, hard as it is for everyone in their own way...
 
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mouse
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4/28/14 6:43 PM
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One more day till therapy.....AHHHHHHHHHH. Too much drama in my life recently.


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HopefulMommy
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4/28/14 7:21 PM
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Hang in there!
 
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5/1/14 4:31 PM
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I forgot to get on and say...I SURVIVED TILL THERAPY . Still having so many negative feelings....


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