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TOPIC TITLE: Validation
Created On 9/10/14 8:34 PM
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keep climbing
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It's very lonely, having an MI. No one really knows what I go thru- how much I struggle on a daily basis , and how low the lows are.
I have had to totally rewire my brain in the last few years. It has been hell and more and I can't share it with anyone. I need validation.
 
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9/14/14 5:57 PM
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Depression and other MI are exhausting to recover from but they say it's worth it. I sure hope so because I'm running on empty.


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All the king's horses and all the king's men couldn't put Humpty Dumpty together again.
 
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9/15/14 12:07 AM
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Besurois toivois.
 
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TBear
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10/20/14 5:11 PM
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Yeah - not being able to tell people when your life internally is totally in turmoil.... I am there - have been for some time... it is so hard but when you finally look back - don't you see some progress? I know I am constantly trying to help myself with noting even the small steps of change - and being kind to myself - I have found the more I accept myself with kindness(really much easier said than done) the better I am at relating to others - and they feel more comfortable around me.
 
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keep climbing
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Hi, Tbear! How are you doing?
Yes, there is progress,b"h. And I am so grateful for that.
 
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TBear
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10/23/14 3:55 PM
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Hi - yes - I am lurking - no internet at home ... so I am taking a break at work.... but I am now in a home of my own after 6 months of being homeless with 6 kids after a fire.....Baruch Hashem!! You know how thankful I am for a bed and my own room again?!?!?!?! Funny how we take things for granted.... simple things - a can opener, a bedside lamp, curtains, a bed that is more than a mat on the floor.....

Yes, we all need validation - I was almost hospitalized - depression was so bad from all that was going on and the situation.... have to say - Hashem gave me a great non-Jewish therapist who didn't lose his cool and knew his stuff - kept me safe with the least cost and intervention.... three appointments a week - check in calls and an escape night to myself at a hotel - cheaper than hospitalization and more normal for my kids - to them mom was still there and took a girls night out (little did they know how close I was to not being here any more) Lonely having a MI - but it is best in the long run to not have everyone know - better for the children - nothing to be ashamed of, but something to remain private... but SO HARD!!!!!!
 
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10/24/14 5:35 AM
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Tbear, you have been thru so much. You are inspirational. I hope things get better and better for you.
About validation- I don't mean publicizing my MI to everybody. I'm still hoping for a real live support group of peers. They exist in the secular world. Why is it impossible to create them among frum people?
 
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TBear
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10/24/14 11:24 AM
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You are correct.... would be nice to have a support group - but most won't admit they have MI due to the shame factor and the protection of the family.....

It is lonely
 
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