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Created On 10/15/14 6:33 AM
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mouse
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10/15/14 6:33 AM
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So my therapist agreed it was time for me to move on since the insurance is being so difficult. After 15 yrs I need to find a different therapist. I'm not happy about it. I'm not sure whether to continue therapy or not even. In the meantime I need to know what to look for in a therapist. Any ideas???? I know the basics....tell them insurance, time of day available, and diagnosis, but other than that I'm baffled. Should I purely rely on instinct??? Any ideas??? I have some names, but I'm not looking until after Succos. I just need to know what to look for in a therapist.


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10/15/14 9:32 AM
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Maybe to tell your rav that someone is looking for a therapist, and can he recommend someone who he knows is good.

You can also ask your therapist to recommend one (or maybe two or three) therapists.

Then you can meet the therapist (maybe more than one) to see if you are comfortable, if you have a rapport.

It should be with hatzlocho.

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10/15/14 1:19 PM
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A therapist is like a shidduch, you need to be a match otherwise you won't make progress or make very little progress. I think since you've been with you current therapist for so long A. ask her for a recommendation B. have her speak to the therapist first if possible so she can give the other therapist background and as well she can feel for you if this is a match. You might also want to ask around. People can share their experience with you. Btw where do you want the therapist to be located? Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!


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10/20/14 5:07 PM
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These are great suggestions...for me it was important to ask:

1. What availability for phone calls there was - and what provisions for vacations.

2. I also needed someone was a specialist in the field and went to consultation/ used other sources and specialists to help him. This was far more important than being frum since the frum therapist really messed up - he cared too much - and didn't look for help when he needed it.

3. I also ask about boundaries and how situations would be handled (running into his at the grocery or gym) - You want someone who will be meticulous about keeping the therapeutic relationship safe and professional.

4. Also if some family sessions would be acceptable because of the diagnosis being rather complicated - family stressors can really knock you out of stability fast. Family dynamics need to be part of the healing.

5. Cost and location were next to last on my list - a good therapist less often is more important than one who potentially can mess you up, more often (cheaper and closer).

So sorry you are having to change - it is a loss - try to process as much as possible and I strongly agree about having your therapist talk to the new one - or even give suggestions..... transition will be smoother hopefully.....

Been in-and out of the forum - but still care....
 
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10/21/14 1:39 PM
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Anyone have experience with therapy over the Internet (like Skype) ?
There are no frum therapists for me locally.
In the past, I did try using a phone but it did not work well.
 
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10/23/14 10:41 AM
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Mouse - you doing OK???? Just saying - being frum is nowhere near as important as being good in the field....

If I needed heart surgery - I wouldn't go to any doctor just because he was frum - I would pick the best heart surgeon I could afford.... a therapist is also in that category - an emotional heart surgeon - if one is a frum therapist yet specializes in ADHD - don't go to him with trauma or depression..... go to a specialist in your need. Get referrals, and interview them with what is important to you.
 
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10/24/14 3:42 PM
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I'm doing ok I guess. Still no therapist. No umph to find one. Too tired and depressed and busy with my kids. I feel like life is so consuming right now I barely exist. Maybe I'll try to find another therapist soon .


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10/29/14 3:47 PM
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Nothing much to say Mouse... just sitting here - davening for you, hurting for you....tears - I don't know how I would handle life right now without having my therapist.... I know we have the same diagnosis, but I sens you are so much stronger!

Hashem will keep you going - may you find peace and support.

Sending hugs if you want them.
 
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10/30/14 10:52 AM
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Thank you, TBear, for caring so much. I think I'm at the point life is too hectic to see a therapist anyhow. I keep waiting for things to calm down....first Yomim Tovim and now kids keeping me on my toes. I'm not much stronger. You really can't compare. We're just in different places at the moment perhaps.


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