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toy123
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So I am suffering extreme anxiety so bad that my sleep is being disturbed and that I am physically getting sick, having stomach issues. Anyone have any ideas on how to manage anxiety? I have found that since my depression got a bit better the anxiety has gone up by 100...


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Toy I'm so sorry you're going through this I wish I had the right words to console you
We are with you!
 
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toy, I hope you feel better soon! Is there anyone you can talk to about it who might be able to help?
 
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Hope you're having a better day, Toy.

I had a crazy few days. Too much going on in my house. What can I say? I'm mad! And MAD is better than SAD! Anger is giving me strength, and I hope it lasts. I really DON'T want to slip into a bad phase again. I am working sooo hard to take care of myself. Still, it's in Hashem's hands. Whatever I do is only hishtadus.
 
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So sorry Toy... It is hard to deal with the anxiety and lack of sleep just makes it worse. All I've been told is to just try hard to take care of yourself.. including relaxation stuff (whatever works for you) like deep breathing...

Sometimes helps just to accept that I am anxious and be kind to myself rather than fight it, because being upset with myself for my anxiety, just makes it worse. How would you take care of a child who was feeling that way.... talk to yourself that way...

OK - I am doing too much mothering - just want you to know I care -
 
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If you have a smart phone there are many apps that can help with anxiety through meditation, relaxation, and even tracking of triggers. If you don't have a smart phone, you may very well find similar programs on the computer....think Youtube. I hope you feel better soon. Anxiety stinks.


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Feeling any better toy?
 
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Ive had a similar experience that when my depression lifted a bit, my anxiety became horrible!!
Have you been in touch with your psychiatrist? Aside from benzos, adding a new med could help reduce the anxiety in as little as two weeks ( wich feels like forever when you have bad anxiety, but its better than months...)
Also, its kind of the oposite of what everyone heres ben saying, and probably may be hard if you are feeling really sick, but i found excercise can really help when your really anxious. Its kind of like making your heart race, but on your own terms.


Edited: 5/31/15 at 8:51 PM by channafofanna
 
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Thinking about you Toy - hope u r OK
 
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How are you doing, Toy. Hope you're ok.
 
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Toy,
I have similar issues. My sleep is very terrible. I always feel sleepy during the whole day. it is a torture.
Like some suggested here before, benzos help anxiety. Also Make sure that you see a psychiatrist and a therapist. They should help you at least a little bit.
what type of anxiety do u have : GAD or something else?
 
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I want to curl up in my bed and just sssleep. I don't want to face this day.
 
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sending empathy your way keep climbing!!! im feeling the same way. Is there a way to cancel today? Maybe tomorow too???
 
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Sorry keepclimbing and channa. Hope you feel better soon.

If it were up to me, I'd cancel every day until moshiach decides to show up. In the meantime I'd hang out in a comfy space capsule.
 
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Keep climbing and channa so sorry your feeling so bad. I wish there was something I could do to make it better. Keep climbing is it something in particular about today that is making you feel this way? Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day...


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Sometimes when I say "I'm okay", I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say "I know you are not".

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It's all so depressing. I work so hard to be "well", and still have so many limitations. The people in my life don't "get" me at all.
 
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I can relate to that. It's really painful.

I try to remember that Hashem knows the superhuman effort I have to put in to remain sane, and most people will never get it. It's not easy, though.
 
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I have been browsing this site occasionally but have not posted
in long time. Mainly because I was feeling well.
I feel guilty about not helping others. It is truly the
biggest chesed alleviating someone's emotional pain.

Maybe Hashem is reminding me. Today it has become very difficult
to cope with depression (and the obsesessive thoughts).
Reading everyone's post makes me even more ashamed.
B' H' I don't have the external problems mentioned but I am still depressed.

I know I am not being specific but that is difficult in a public forum.
 
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Shver, I have a thought, which comments did you relate to? Is there anything you can say to help alleviate that person's pain?

If yes then doing that will help alleviate your shame and help another person as well.
Just a thought....
 
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One of the ways I am able to endure this illness is by supporting my fellow sufferers. This creates meaning in a situation that seems so senseless.
 
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MoMo Thank you very much responding.
Just knowing someone cares is helpful.

I was't clear in my post. I had no specific person in mind.
Just all of the people that post here who I did not respond to them.

After many months of feeling well, this relapse is especially difficult.
 
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Sorry about your relapse Shver. Did anything trigger it?

As far as posting is concerned. Don't pressure yourself. I've gone for months without posting when I didn't feel up to it, and then started again. On and off. Others barely post. Whatever you feel comfortable with.
 
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I think it started when I was informed that I needed a tooth extraction.
About two weeks earlier, my eye doctor said I needed a cataract removed.

It is not the $$. I have insurance and the balance in my HSA (Health Savings).
It just triggered my thoughts about other issues. Suddenly, it just seemed that I had nowhere to turn.

Also, I have a business trip planned with my wife in a few weeks and now have anxiety
that I won't be in (emotional) shape for the trip.
 
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Makes sense that that would trigger anxiety. Medical issues are anxiety provoking even for many who don't struggle with anxiety related issues. Hope you feel better in time for the trip, and are able to enjoy yourself.
 
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Shver we're rooting for you!!
 
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Yeah, I have to agree with Wishtobehappy. The things you are dealing with right now would be stressful for anyone, regardless of their mental health! And adding that to mental health issues and other related issues just makes things seem so much more unbearable.
Is it a relief or more stressful that your wife will be with you on the buisness trip?
 
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Toy123, hows the anxiety been going for you? any better?
 
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Yeah Toy been thinking about you too!
 
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I had my eye surgery yesterday and was out of commission.
The post surgery recovery was extremely irritating.
Things are much better today and I am back at work.
Feeling better both emotionally and physically.

Having my wife with me on the business trip is in balance less stressful.
I am now feeling more confident about the trip and the prospect of meeting customers.
 
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My anxiety in general has gotten better but today it's so out of control again. I've been rapidly cycling today between feeling really good to feeling sad and bad.


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Sometimes when I say "I'm okay", I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say "I know you are not".

Just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm happy.
 
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Glad to hear that shver!!!
Toy123- SOrry todays not so great, but im happy to hear that in general its gotten better. do you like that its cycling so you get breaks or is that more stressful for you? Any idea what todays anxiety is about?
 
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