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TOPIC TITLE: dealing with controlling parents
Created On 8/12/09 3:52 PM
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yisrael
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8/12/09 3:52 PM
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i can use some support on handling my parents ,also some advice
 
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8/12/09 3:54 PM
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what are they doing?
 
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gad
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If you prefer to keep it general without details, then perhaps you can give a very general idea of what you mean by handling them.
 
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yisrael
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8/27/09 3:02 PM
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i have been away from a computer for quite a while,and i dont mind detail.they basicly are extremely sensitive and feel any time someone disagrees with them,has a different opinion about something, they feel put down and they kind of explode which terrifies me they feel inferior very easily and blame me for their feelings .i feel i cant breathe around them[it actualy does affect my breathing]
 
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The 'feeling put down' part would be the response of a 'sensitive' person. The 'explode' part that follows sounds scarier.

Are you currently in therapy? It sounds like you can use help in helping to define boundries--and where they may be being overstepped; your parents for making you responsible for their feelings, and you for allowing it.

It sounds like you are a sensisitive person, and thus feel pain more acutely. I hope you are getting help.

B'hatzlacha.
 
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yisrael
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you definitely are on target i am a very sensitive person.its very hard to set boundaries since they will be both angry and very hurt
 
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You'll need to learn about setting those boundaries kindly but firmly. This is vital to your existence.

Any improvements? Did you connect with a good therapist?
 
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yisrael
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i am so strongly dissociated from myself that i dont really know i have boundartes.do you know what i mean ? i do have a therapist but im not sure really where im going
 
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Therapy can take some time before it gets moving you may need to give it more time.

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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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If you know you have challenges in the area of formulating healthy boundaries, that is exactly the perfect issue to bring up with your therapist! You can just come out and say: " you know, I was thinking...I don't know how to create healthy boundaries for myself...can we work on that?". This is a very common problem among patients and most therapists are equipped to deal with this, and you can see results fairly quickly if you two stay on track! Hatzlacha!
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