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TOPIC TITLE: dealing with IT
Created On 4/30/10 12:56 AM
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ea87576n
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4/30/10 12:56 AM
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I can't believe I did not know about this site previosly! For now, the worst of the flood of memories that made me feel queasy, guilty, sinful, marred, scarred, damaged, ashamed and afraid are back behind the prison walls. I feel much better because I know Hashem is taking care of me, always did and always will. My biggest problem is that I am mostly to blame for IT and it is completely icongruous with the rest of me, so it makes me ill to think about it. I don't want to think about it, but I do at the same time. It's all so strange. I feel like I'm fighting a war in my head.

Wow! It felt good to vent!


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ea87576n
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4/30/10 1:24 AM
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does anyone even know what I'm talking about because I can't bring myself to use actual, real words to define IT?


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ea87576n
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4/30/10 2:00 AM
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I hope someone answers me because it finally felt good to be talking to some people out there, albeit anonymous, who may know what I'm talking about.

Do I seem desperate?


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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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4/30/10 9:45 AM
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What you are talking about seems very common to me. Yetzer hara/yetzer tov. For all of us, there is a struggle between self nurtuance/health and self destruction.
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thanks Dr. Lynn. Of course that's true about the yetzer hara and yetzer tov. I'm constantly fighting that kind of battle. In this case, though, I'm not really sure which option is the yetzer hara. If I let myself into the memories, then I feel guilty, ashamed, sinful...etc and it is not very productive. Plus, the memories make my body go haywire which just engenders more guilt and shame. Yet on the other hand, I know that forcing the memories into the corner of my mind is not very productive in the long run. I know that the only way for me to come out truly ok is to face it, deal with it, and integrate it into who I am today


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Are you working with a therapist/psychiatrist to release you from your guilt?
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5/26/10 2:34 PM
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Yes, I am. It's just going to be a long haul


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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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How are you doing?
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Hi. Thank you for checking in. I actually have not been on this site in awhile...I've been quite busy with school work and things like that. I have actually recently switched therapists--i feel like there is hope in the world...but it is hard. I guess its never easy.

Right now, I'm trying to wrap my head around the fact that the only way out is through and acknowledge the I have to face the pain if I want to work through this.


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