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TOPIC TITLE: How can I face her
Created On 2/21/13 8:59 PM
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toy123
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How do I face my therapist after I gave her a very personal and embarrassing letter? Something came up and I had to tell her and there was no way I was gonna do it face to face so I wrote her a letter and gave it to her in a sealed envelope for her to read after session. I've done this before but this is something different. How will I be able to face her? I'm so embarrassed and even feel guilty about it (what I wrote about). I need reassurance that I won't die of embarrassment when we discuss it next session. (Hopeful mommy you might know what I'm talking about...)


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I do know what you're talking about, toy. I wish I had an answer for you. I don't know. Hopefully, as a professional, she'll be able to make you feel more comfortable about it. Honestly, I've never brought up such personal things in therapy because I was too embarrassed, so I'm afraid I don't have an any advice. Good luck, though!
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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Toy,
Usually, the client has feelings of shame and embarrassment that exceed the situation. I can tell you from
experience that when we face and talk about these "icky" feelings, that's usually when things shift for the better. Please let us know what happens...
a lynn
 
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Whatever it is (and I've shared some really heavy duty stuff with therapists.. Even stuff of that nature...) a good therapist should be able to ease the tension somewhat and make it more manageable...

Let us know how it goes
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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I agree. A good therapist asks good questions and provides a "safe place" to be vulnerable, take emotional risks and shed toxic material.
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Maybe you will die of embarassment. Let's see. NAHHHHHH, don't think so. I think you'll be able to face her again too. If she's halfway decent you'll survive it and grow from it.


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I should add, you are brave to write it in a letter. Usually the really big bad embarassing emotional stuff I don't write, I just say because I'm scared it will get into the wrong hands...even if given back to me. (someone may be bored enough to puzzle it together after it's ripped up and such.) If you were brave enough to write it, you're brave enough to manage it. Don't worry.


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Have you had your next session? How did it go?
 
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I had my session today and i totally avoided the topic. she bought it up and normalized it for me which made me feel really validated but i couldn't bring myself to talk abt it. I told her next session i'll try... I know i should have not avoided but it was so hard...


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Sometimes when I say "I'm okay", I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say "I know you are not".

Just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm happy.
 
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Well, you showed up, you listened, you felt validated, and you made a plan for next time. Sounds like you did great!
 
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Wow, you're brilliant. You did a great job dealing with it...even if it is pushing it off till next session. Sometimes the further removed it is the easier it is to deal with.


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Toy,
Keep up the good work!
a lynn
 
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