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TOPIC TITLE: Chillul Hashem I am stuck..
Created On 3/3/13 8:42 PM
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TBear
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3/3/13 8:42 PM
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My therapist is not Jewish.... I feel bad if I have worries/ challenges/ trials about my every day life....

Is it a chillul Hashem to complain about stuff in everyday life? Actually even if it is me that is the problem.... My last therapist was frum, but ended therapy in an awful manner - now I have real traumatic reactions when I see him in the community - also know I am overly sensitive to being alone - quite literally no family other than wonderful children.....

When i have been upset - OK severly upset - suicide ideation, etc.... - about running into my former therapist - well my current therapist has asked if I want to press charges (not that he is saying I should or shouldn't) Either way - he hasn't had the best view of the orthodox community and I do not want to add to that - so I no longer discuss things that upset me in my everyday life - but that isn't good.....

I have learned not to wall away feelings - feel them and try to learn what they are telling me... but I feel stuck , like I have nowhere to process or discuss.....

There is nowhere to turn and well I just want to give up trying..... How do I handle things I cannot process in therapy? Any ideas?

Tonight at a chasunnah - saw him , my past therapist - he didn't even acknowlege me....

So tired of struggling with the present affects of past dysfunction.....





Edited: 3/4/13 at 2:52 AM by TBear
 
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MoMo
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3/4/13 3:38 AM
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My Rov told me that there is no chillul hashem in discussing problems with a non frum therapist. Every person and every community has problems.

Your therapy wont work if u cant be open
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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3/4/13 2:31 PM
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I agree completely with MoMo. This comes up sometimes with frum patients speaking about abusive parents, and their internal conflict of kibud av v'eim/loshon hara. I let people know I can't help them if I don't know what happened in their lives.
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