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TOPIC TITLE: Where to go for shabbos?
Created On 8/23/14 9:56 PM
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ArtYgirl
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Ok so I come from a family that's not religious. When I was 14 I started becoming more religious, dressing modest, keeping shabbos, learning Hebrew ECt. Anyway at 18 I stopped. And now I'm starting to become interested again. But the thing is I don't want to be at home. I have family problems but also I just don't like being all alone and bored on shabbos. I have a few religious friends but most I haven't talked to in a while...they got really busy...so I want to know how can I meet more people and meet people who's house I can go to for shabbos? I just want to be able to feel good on shabbos. But the thing is because of my mental illness I don't feel good a lot I have nightmares ECt.
 
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gad
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You can call chabad
 
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You can try shabbat.com they have where u can eat the meals and also lodging... good luck!! Let us know what happens...


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I agree try Shabbat.com
 
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ArtYgirl
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I only want to go to people I know because of my mental illness and stuff makes it hard for me
 
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I hear that!
 
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gad
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first you wrote:
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Originally posted by: ArtYgirl
I have a few religious friends but most I haven't talked to in a while...they got really busy...so I want to know how can I meet more people and meet people who's house I can go to for shabbos?


so people suggested how you can meet new people.

then you wrote:
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I only want to go to people I know because of my mental illness and stuff makes it hard for me


so i'm confused. do you want to spend shabbos with new people, or with people you know?
 
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if you want to spend shabbos with people you know, then maybe you can call them up, and ask them if you can come for shabbos.
 
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ArtYgirl
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I know that's because I am confused. I want new friends but i also am scared because I don't know how they'll act to me because of everything. And I wish I didn't even have to make new friends but usually most of my friends don't seem to care much about me or want to be with me.
 
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gad
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Right now it seems very scary to meet new people.
 
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gad
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How is it going today?

Hope to hear good news.

Have a good Shabbos
 
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You wrote you don't want to go places because of your mental illness. Can I ask what it is about your mental illness that you don't want to interact? Is there any way anyone would be able to tell you have a mental illness? If so (although I can't think of any reason why it would be obvious), is there any possibility that even if people do know, they may have a mental illness themselves or know someone who does? In general I think when people host for Shabbos they are open to meeting all types of people, especially on Shabbat.com. I invite guests to our meals and I realize I have to be open minded (which we are usually) because anyone can walk in our door. That being said as a host I've had a wonderful experience meeting people I never would have before and hearing all sorts of things I thought were interesting. I really liked meeting all of them and I don't see any reason why if you came to my house, for example, you would be rejected in any way.

I think people who are open to hosting are the open minded type, and if they're closed minded you probably wouldn't want to be friends with them anyways right?


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You make a good point, that hosts are generally receptive and welcoming and understanding.

Still, when a guest feels very self conscious that their behaviour may not be up to par, it can be very challenging to meet new people. No one like to feel that others regard them as strange.

I guess the solution may be to just jump in the water. And even though it's at first cold, eventually we get used to it, and with time the water becomes warmer.
 
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