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TOPIC TITLE: Hair/Eyelash/Eyebrow Pulling
Created On 12/22/05 4:57 PM
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ch
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12/22/05 4:57 PM
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My 20 month old pulls his eyelashe when he is tierd. Help, I am so stressed about this.Thanks.
 
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silent
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12/22/05 6:51 PM
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Why does this stress you out?
I'm not questioning your position on this, rather, I'm trying to understand what your child's actions really are.
 
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ch
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12/22/05 11:54 PM
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It stressed me out knowing that this chould possibly be chronic. Wouldnt that stress you out as a parent? I also know that it might be nothing and that kids have habits that they drop as quick as they picked it up. However, I am trying to find out what other pple know about this.
 
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silent
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12/23/05 12:40 AM
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As a parent I would be concerned if my child had a worrisome habbit.

I am not a specialist in this area, but I work closely with young children, professionaly.

From the experiences I have had with children, I would recommend to a parent not to worry about this stand-alone habbit.
Actually, the parent's stress-response to the habbit could have a negative impact on the habbit.
Ignoring it may be the best answer.
Although ignoring it doesn't mean that it will quickly dissappear. The habbit could remain for quite some time, or -like you mentioned- pass quickly.

I would worry if the child were harming him/herself.

If you want to pursue this further, you could try the Birth to Three (free) program in whatever state you live in. Try to get a consultation or evaluation and you'll probably have your worries dispelled. If not, you may be able to begin the process of taking care of the potential problem, through Birth to Three.

Good Luck
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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12/27/05 12:05 AM
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CH-
I think the advice you got so far was sound. As a parent, of course you want to take note of any self-damaging behaviors, but you want to also maintain calm. I remember that when my son was under 1 year old, he banged his head on the floor. When we made a big deal about it, he liked the attention and kept going- so, we ignored it, gave him other POSITIVE attention, and within a couple of months, he stopped.

I would also reiterate that "early intervention" is a very good free program all over the US for children under three.
A Lynn
 
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