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TOPIC TITLE: psychodynamic anger management teleconference
Created On 11/6/06 12:39 AM
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beaten
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11/6/06 12:39 AM
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If you are interested in exploring your triggers, particularly as they relate to your young children, read on.
I have been struggling with anger/helplessness vis a vis my children. As long as it was contained inside of me I was okay about reacting to them. But lately I am acting out my anger, and it is hurting my children.
I know that if I say anything like it to my therapist she sees it as her duty to protect the children. To that end she will attempt to redirect my behavior. I guess you can call it CBT. For example, she would say something like, take deep breaths, or make sure you keep your hands to your side, or go take a time out.
I have an ''issue'' with this kind of approach, as it makes me feel controlled, someone is telling me what to do. I want my T to help me explore the connection between my current reaction to my children and the historical stuff behind it. I have talked to her about it, but she seems adamant about first delivering the cbt part. I react strongly to the cbt part.

So, in an effort to help myself and others in a similar situation, I've decided to host a self-help psychodynamic anger management teleconference call wherein others with similar issues can explore our anger without the hindrance of a therapist intervening with cbt.
I have found that when I address my reactivity dynamically I am then able to come up with and implement cognitive-behavioral changes.
I want to stress, this call will deal with reactivity vis a vis our children, and not bosses/spouses/or other adults.
It will be a small group.
If you are serious about getting a handle on your reactivity to your young (up to age 14) children, and would like to participate in this weekly call, you may email me at wecare12345@yahoo.com
Please indicate if you would like daytime or evening calls, times are eastern time.

Feedback and suggestions are welcome!


Edited: 11/6/06 at 12:46 AM by beaten
 
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gad
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11/7/06 10:20 PM
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A good way to control anger is to remember that everything that happens to us is by Divine Providence, and is for our benefit.

(So there is no reason to be angry at the offender, since the discomfort was destined to happen anyway.)

Of course it's a good idea to share feedback and methods to improve skills. Hope your efforts in this are successful.
 
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11/9/06 12:51 AM
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Edited: 11/9/06 at 12:51 AM by div01
 
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beaten
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11/9/06 12:54 AM
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To all who have responded via email, thank you for your interest. I'm sorry that I am limiting this call to females only. It is a small group, 4-5 people. There is one slot still available. If you are interested email me at wecare12345@yahoo.com
You may remain anonymous. I hope to have this up and running by next week iy''h.
 
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beaten
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11/9/06 12:58 AM
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Gad, you are proposing a cognitive behavioral approach. It is very different than a psychodynamic approach. Cognitive-behavior therapy works fine for lots of people, I know. But not for others. I'm sure glad it works for you!
 
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