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Is a human being ever capable of giving it? (Like a mother for example)


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Yes.
 
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What about someone who has none or limited self love? Does the capacity to give depend on how much love you feel for yourself?
What about a parent who disowns/cuts off a child?


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Mothers can instinctly give to their children despite not feeling much self love. The unconditional love the child returns to the mother helps foster further self love within her.

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wow thats really nice. so i get a bonus of self love by having a kid. cool.


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can someone with bpd control their anger? if so then i feel like the biggest failure because every time i open my mouth i get angry...


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It is more challenging with BPD.

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But if its not impossible to control my anger, then it is possible to blame myself, right?


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Self blame increases the anger. Unconditional self acceptance and self love will bring one closer to lessening the anger.

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Star, do you know what I feel like when I'm so out of control?
Like I'm on an operating table, and I'm being operated on without anesthesia.
OUCH!
So, yes, if I was a saint or a magician, I could control myself.
But I'm not.
We are regular people and we're doing the best we can.
Hope today is a better day.
 
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thanks both. helps a little.


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How do i work on not getting angry but not passing judgement over getting verbally angry? like if something needs to be changed, it must be bad.
a therapist told me we need to work on not getting verbally angry and i was so hurt-in fact i think it made me angrier because i felt that was a judgement of me.
so wheres the balance between acceptance and change? or so i just need to focus on self acceptance of my verbal anger and then change will naturally occur(if so is the therapist wrong?)
thank you.


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Your last sentence sounds right. Accept what we cannot change, change what we cannot accept and the wisdom to know the difference,

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change what we cannot accept- so then maybe my verbal anger is unacceptable?


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Accepting yourself will cause the most positive change (as you said).

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okay im still kinda confused....thanks.


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"Accept what we cannot change, change what we cannot accept and the wisdom to know the difference"

Dr Price- you are so funny... I believe I saw this on a mug somewhere! Who said it- do you remember?

Thanks Hope you are having an enjoyable summer so far!
 
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i think its from 12 steps. funny is an interesting description, it kinda leaves room to wonder if you mean negative or positive.
i think maybe you feel funny posting on this site. does it make you uncomfortable? no need to answer. just wondering. welcome.
anyways i think its positive. not sure why you think dr price is funny here but hes definitely really smart and really caring unlike other docs.


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I found his comment humorous.

No need to worry - if I felt uncomfortable posting on this website I simply would not log on!

Enjoy your day,
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oh cool you have two usernames


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