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TOPIC TITLE: I push people away
Created On 9/18/13 3:35 PM
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toy123
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I feel like I'm always pushing people away because of my questions and hardships. For example before Yom Kippur I had a problem, I emailed a prominent person in the community whom I thought would be able to help me. She did. Sunday I emailed her again because I was so distraught no answer. Then yesterday I was so lonely and depressed that I wanted to know what Hashem wants from me so I emailed her ______ I need to know what Hashem needs from me..... and I didn't get a response. Now this is not the first person I'm trying. I've emailed a lot of Rabbi's and most of them didn't even respond and the ones who did said they can't help. What is a Rabbi here for? I know a Rabbi is not a therapist but I would much rather discuss my aveiros and hashkafic questions with a Rabbi than with my therapist... Am I doing the wrong thing by emailing them??????????


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Sometimes you need to run away just to see who will follow you.

Sometimes when I say "I'm okay", I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say "I know you are not".

Just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm happy.
 
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Dr. Price MD
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9/18/13 3:41 PM
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Nothing wrong with asking questions.

Gut Yom Tov,

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toy123
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9/18/13 3:43 PM
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So why do these people give me the feeling that I'm a burden and they're not interested.....


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Sometimes you need to run away just to see who will follow you.

Sometimes when I say "I'm okay", I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say "I know you are not".

Just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm happy.
 
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Dr. Price MD
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9/18/13 3:54 PM
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Perhaps you ask good, challenging questions to which it may be difficult to find an appropriate response?

Rabbi Price, M.D.
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keep climbing
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9/18/13 5:14 PM
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It's a horrible feeling when people don't answer you.
But maybe those Rabbis are not able to answer these kind of questions...... Maybe if you found out if they know how to help and are able to help, you'll have better luck.
Did you find a place for Yomtov?
 
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toy123
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9/18/13 6:05 PM
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yea it's not only horrible it makes me feel stupid. One of the rabbi's I emailed his mantra is asei lecha rav and when I emailed him he said he can't help me. I'm just FED UP!!!! As well right now is an extremely hard time for me, the yomom tovim I'm in between therapists so I'm not seeing anyone till after succos, I'm lonely, sad, and depressed and have no one to talk to. Whatever I feel unworthy of answers and feeling happy.

And no I didn't find a place for yom tov. It'll be a very loney succos Oh well!!!


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Sometimes you need to run away just to see who will follow you.

Sometimes when I say "I'm okay", I want someone to look me in the eyes, hug me tight and say "I know you are not".

Just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm happy.
 
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Cutiestarr
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9/23/13 6:21 PM
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Maybe their spam box works better than yours
 
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9/25/13 1:39 PM
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Cutie...a Rabbi with Spam...SHAME...i mean that stuff made of PORK .


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HopefulMommy
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9/25/13 5:05 PM
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Maybe the rabbis you're asking don't know enough to be able to answer. Maybe you can look higher, and contact somebody who can truly understand you. Have you tried Rabbi Goldwasser?
 
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