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TOPIC TITLE: What is it?
Created On 5/12/14 9:04 PM
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Junior Supporter

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5/12/14 9:04 PM
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I currently have nightmares (not often, though) about my mother in my face or other stuff. Sometimes i wake up yelling i am scared.
I am also afraid of the actual s*x act, totally not conscious, i just automatically tighten up. This is not a problem i ever anticipated having.
My husband is convinced i was molested i know i was not.

I just was pretty emotionally and physically abused. What to do?

Also, what are my obligations of kibbud aim to my mother? She has told me she hates me etc... I usually feel hatred and disgust towards her or tremendous pity. I don't like feeling that way. Can I help it? How am I supposed to feel?
Another problem I have is that I get this urge to use my hands to express negative emotions. (If I'm not being understood.) This happens rarely, and when it does I can usually control myself.
My husband is super understanding, but I need to stop. Also I am scared for when my kids get a little older. I have been to therapy before, but all she does it compliment me and validate me. I don't feel like anything constructive is happening there and I want results. (She did tell me my mother likely has NPD and/ or BPD which definitely enlightened me)
Any suggestions?

Dr. Price MD

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5/13/14 9:00 AM
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Consider discussing with your therapist some more concrete behavioral strategies to promote relaxation during times of stress. CBT and DBT techniques can help. Consider reading the classic book, "Stop Walking on Eggshells" to help deal with mother. Let me know how you make out.

Rabbi Price, M.D.

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