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Created On 10/3/12 7:10 PM
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Hashemschild
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Edited: 10/3/12 at 7:16 PM by Hashemschild
 
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welcome to frumsupport, hashems child. I like your username.


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I has a therapist for the last six years who I went to once or twice a week. At my last appointment he told me that hewill call me to set up the next appointment. He never called me to set up an appointment and did not return my phone calls. I have no clue why this is happening. I feel lost, alone betrayed beyond words and Im in terrible pain. Could someone help me out?
 
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Maybe something is going on in his life, or in his family, that makes him unavailable. But it must be very hard for you, when all you can do is wait. Maybe you can give yourself a time limit for how long you'll wait, and if you still don't hear back from him, look for another therapist.
 
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Hashemschild
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Appreciate your advice but one of my friends who sees him is sticking to her regular appointments. Also how does one just change therapists. I trusted him with lots of personal and private stuff. He was always available for me, dont know why he is ignoring me now. I feel very betrayed and lost without him.
 
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[q I feel very betrayed and lost without him.


Wow, Hashemschild, that is really painful to trust someone that much and then feel the trust is betrayed, or lost.
Thank you for trusting us with what you're going through.



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Thanks for ur support!
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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10/15/12 6:29 PM
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Child,
I am lost, too. I just want to get this straight. You have been seeing a therapist for six years and suddenly, he never called you to reschedule an appointment and does not return your calls, and your friend's appointments have been going forward as usual? And there was no breakdown in your relationship with him? Meaning, nothing out of the ordinary happened in the last session? If so, I can really understand your feelings of sadness, disappointment and betrayal.
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It sounds very unprofessional of him
 
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Thanks for responding. Yes that is exactly what happened, and I still did not hear from him. I stopped calling him cause dont want to stalk him when he is in any case not returning my calls. But Im in a lot of pain I feel very very betrayed, heavy loss and self hate as of why did I ever trust him. Im very down and in bed most of the time. Too much pain to go to work. Legaly does a therapist have a right to act this way?
 
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I think it violates ethics codes. I think he'd be held responsible if something happened legally...at least that was my understanding when a therapist "dumped" me. She gave me several names of other therapists and encouraged me to follow up with one of them....I did and it worked out well. But to leave you hanging is professionally iffy.


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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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Child,
I agree that his behavior is really inappropriate. know you are not making it up- I just can't believe someone would act this way. If he stopped all clinical activity, I would assume something happened to him, but this is just weird. You can call the State Dept- Office of the Professions and file a complaint. They can do an investigation, but I am not sure if anything can happen legally, unless there are a lot of complaints. Please let me know what happens. I can understand your feelings of betrayal and disappointment as well as erosion of trust.
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