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Created On 5/24/06 4:21 PM
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Debbi
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5/24/06 4:21 PM
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Hi,

I have an individual therapist whom i see thrice weekly. I also see a marital therapist once a week. She actually specialises in sx therapy, not really a marriage counsellor.

Whenever I go to her I come home, and for the rest of the day I stay in bed. I cannot function. I feel drained. Tired. Weak physically and emotionally.

I know that the work I am doing is difficult, and she has explained that the only reason we can do such intense work is the fact that I have my individual therapist to continue the work, the rest of the week, and also give me support which enables me to get from one week to the next.

I would be interested to know if anyone else experiences this feeling of being almost incapacitated and dysfunctional.

thanks to anyone who cares to respond.

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Belly
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6/4/06 7:37 AM
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Debbie
I can totaly relate to this. Whe I began therapy I always needed time to myself and rest. It was very exhausting.
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8/20/06 8:35 AM
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I know this was written a while ago, but i just saw it now.

When i started at therapy I was also really drained. I called it "foggy"... I was in my own world where i just had to retreat and lay there and do nothing. I didnt understand why. Maybe it is as other ppl say, hard work. After a while it went away. It also used to seem like 1 hr of therapy was really 5! After a while an hour felt like half an hour. Now, I am not in therapy so I cant say. I hate therapy, even though i met with both good and bad therapists. It could really help, but is way too challenging (and expensive!) for me in many ways.
 
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12/19/06 3:25 PM
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i get that away alot, but like in different ways, like ill go to therapy adn every time when it gets to a certain discussion that it always does i just stop going. i dont even have the currage to call and cancel. but when i did go i would go straight from there to the bar and drink, and that was my main problem!!! i wish it was like u guys have it, but wtvr i dealt with it and now i dont go to therapy andi still drink all the time!!! it was a loose loose situation, but im seriously considering therapy


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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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12/20/06 12:07 AM
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I agree that it takes courage, but I feel it is worth the risk.
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Holding on
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12/20/06 11:21 PM
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I used to be at that place of being drained after therapy, in the beggining. Then after a while, I became just more thoughtful... but not drained. I was able to go on w/ the rest of my night, but now, these last few times, it started happening to me again.
Yes, we are discussing some sensitive and Very difficult to discuss areas, and I know it's normal, but it leaves me completely drained. All I want to do is lie down and sleep.
 
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rockybrown
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2/21/07 2:29 PM
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totally, i was like exhausted after sessions and i only went 1nce a week. in my oppinion 4 times a week sounds like abit much. progress has to happen slowly anyways.maybe all the therapy is whats tiring u out not the topics jk. but seroiusly omg, i can remember when i first started therapy i HATED it! lol.keep going debbi.i admire youre efforts.


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5/11/07 6:44 AM
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Has anyone had this experience? I have been in therapy for a while, I started out very willing and wanting, i just feel like it lead me nowhere and that i ended up more depressed afterwards than when i started, i've been giving it a chance, and i even switched therapists, but time is going by and i am in the same place and not advancing and getting worse emotionally. I have also been on meds and had them switched and it is the same story.
 
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su7kids
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I don't nkow the answers, but am wondering, have you decided that you're WILLING to change and learn from the therapist, even if you don't like their suggestions?

Is the therapist one that gives you feedback, or do you just talk and they go 'mmmm"?

If you get feedback, then ask Therapist "what can I do to make things move faster".

I honestly believe the desire to change is a major factor, and if you have that, its a big beginning.

Good luck.


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5/16/07 11:21 PM
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I just wanted to add to what "mother of 7" said, are you physically doing anything different than you were before. It's very important to talk about feelings, childhood, etc. but something physical has to be done at the same time-exercise, writing in a journal, starting a hobby, etc.? if not, maybe that's why it's taking so long and you aren't getting anywhere.


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