Login
Questions or Comments!
admin@frumsupport.com

Get FrumSupport News! Join our mailing list.
Email:


Search

Navigation:

 Tehilim List  < Refresh >
TOPIC TITLE: The power of therapy
Created On 7/13/06 12:05 PM
Topic View:

View thread in raw text format


bubbles
Supporter

Posts: 114
Joined: Jun 2005

7/13/06 12:05 PM
User is offline

Just wanted to share this with anyone who is interested.

I have been in therapy for nearly 7 years.
Its been a long and difficult struggle, and now I am just begining to see the fruits of our struggle.
I say "our" because I believe that my therapist shares in this struggle too.

During the years of therapy we have covered many different areas, however quite often we have discussed some issues repetedly.
Over and over again we talked about how some feelings that I experience in the present are often linked to the past.
Logically i kind of got it, and after reading all the literature I could get my hands on, I "understood" on a cognitive level what it meant, and how it affected my life today.

However
just a few days ago, something in my brain clicked.
I suddenly understand on an emotional level what it means to feel strong feelings from the past.

Its so strange to know that although I have been discussing this issue for years and years, I never really "got it"?
Its a weird feeling.

And the best part is, that I feel so much more in control of those frighteningly overpowering feelings, which descend upon me at different times.
Now I can actually talk to myself, and tell myself that I am safe, and that no one will hurt me.
I have done this excersise in the past, following my therapists instruction, but somehow I have never been able to listen to my own voice. So talking to myself never really worked, because I disregarded my own words.

Thanks to all the hard work on the part of my therapist and myself, I am finally begining to listen to myself, and respect my inner voice.
I no longer need to call up my therapist in a panic, and beg her to save me from these horribly debilitating feelings.

All I need to do is tell myself that I am not in danger, and that the terribly overwhelming feelings are but from the past!
Its a wonderful tool, and it really works.

I'm really feeling accomplished with all this advancement, and I am sure my therapist is glad that she (probably) wont be receiving any more emergency phone calls!

Any comments?
would be glad to listen.

Take care all,
debbi




 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



ernie55B
Senior Supporter

Posts: 419
Joined: Mar 2005

7/13/06 10:01 PM
User is offline

Hi Debbi!

I'm really happy for you that you are starting to see results from all your hard work!

Maybe someday I will start to 'get it' as well?

Keep it up!
Ernie
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



tulip
Supporter

Posts: 31
Joined: May 2006

7/14/06 12:26 AM
User is offline

Bubbles, I am so sorry about all of the pain I read about in your posts! That you are still sane is a testament to your extraordinary strength!
How great it is that you have made a "breakthrough" in therapy! Yup, this is reason to celebrate.



Take good care!


Edited: 7/20/06 at 10:14 PM by tulip
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



bubbles
Supporter

Posts: 114
Joined: Jun 2005

7/14/06 10:29 AM
User is offline

Hi Ernie,
Thanks for responding.
I really dont think you and I are dealing with the same issues here. Are we?
So dont beat yourself up for "not getting it".
When its a chemical imbalance how could you suddenly just "get it"??
I really really hope that your suffering will come to a close, and that you can begin to use your life for all the good it was meant to be.
I think you deserve it, you've suffered enough.
Its your time now.
If I could daven, I would daven for you
hoping that this week will have reduced suffering for you.
good shabbos
debbi.


Hi tulip,

I too have used literature as a way of pushing forward. There was however a time when I used books in a way that was detrimental to my well being.
I had so many confused feelings which I didnt understand.
I felt desperate, with a powerful urge to know what these feelings were about, so I would find books relating to abuse. They wern't the self help kind, but more biographies, about peoples abusive childhoods.

I would flood myself with these trues stories of horriffic suffering. I was searching for clarity, and the only way I could do it was by first understanding other peoples experiences.

You are lucky that you are so clear about your goals. I didnt experience that at the start of therapy.
For years I groped around in the dark, with no clear goals except to end my internal anguish.

For years I plowed through darkness.
I felt as though I was wading through mud.
Slowly putting one step in front of the other.
I would wake up in the morning, open my eyes and see a black thickness in front of me. There were days when all I could do was to reach for the phone and call my therapist. She would urge me to get out of bed, wrap my baby in a blanket and head over to her house.
She saved my life.

I went through this while raisng a family of small children. (they are still small).
I couldnt have done it without my therapists constant and unwavering support. (and of course my husbands)

I walked through hours of days, feeling as though I had a wet blanket thrown over my shoulders. The burden so heavy, sometimes too heavy for me to carry alone.

Nightmares were the worst Tulip.
So frightening to wake up gripped with fear. Sweat pouring down my back, crying, frozen in terror.
I still experience these nightmares, but much less often.

They have changed shape too.
Not as paralyzing.
The stories are different now. Not so many people ignoring my terror.

Anyway tulip, I hope you have success working on the nightmares, I know what you mean by wishing that they would miraculously dissapear! How wonderful that would be!

I have found that DBT skills help me alot with my distorted self image, and allows me to feel more empowered and "good".

anyway lots of luck, and thank you so much for sharing your experiences.
(sorry though that your father was similar to mine)

Hope to hear from you again.
tc
debbi
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     



Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
Psychologist

Posts: 914
Joined: Feb 2005

7/21/06 1:20 AM
User is offline

I am very happy for you and proud of you, Bubbles!
a lynn
 
Reply
   
Quote
   
Top
   
Bottom
     

View thread in raw text format
FORUMS > Therapy < Refresh >

Navigation:

The information in this site is not intended to replace the advice of a doctor. FrumSupport disclaims any liability for the decisions you, the User, makes based on information on this site. By using this site, reading, viewing, posting or otherwise, you signify your assent to the Terms and Conditions of Use. If you do not agree to all these Terms and Conditions of Use, please do not use this site. FrumSupport may revise and update these Terms and Conditions of Use at anytime. Your continued usage of FrumSupport will mean you accept those changes.

If you think you or someone you know has a medical emergency, call your doctor, Hatzolah or 911 immediately. FrumSupport cannot and does not monitor forums and postings and cannot and will not pro-actively obtain help for users in need as FrumSupport does not have the funds or people power to accomplish such tasks and it will infringe on the anonymity of each user. Therefore, FrumSupport’s liability is limited by this paragraph and as further set forth in the Terms and Conditions of Use.