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read this. unbelievable. guy said he wants 'slim' and i made the mistake of trying:
this is what his shadchan wrote to me:

"well as a marriage counselor i have seen many marriages that when the wife was heavier than he was it effected the marriage in the when the wife was also very agreesive character
it intimidated the husband alot"

i am so hurt! i cant believe these ppl get away with being therapists!!!!


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ouch!!!!
but there is never a mistake in trying. get that clear, ok?
 
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thanks. i had a 5 hour date with a guy today. i think he liked me but he annoys me a little when he gives little dvar torahs and i kinda hinted that toh im. he does seem more deep, but also likes to say nice things about himself, like i have a nice voice and good body etc......idk...........hes also the brother of sisters i used to be friends with/went to school with so its weird....


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I think guys who are worried about a power prob have a power prob. You don't wanna bein a relationship where th guy feels "all powerful" and that is what the above post sounded like to me. Dumb guy. What u gonna do?


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I should say though star, you AREN"T fat. And if you were, there is still a right guy for you. And if the guy youmentioned is among us, I'd like him to know he is WAY off. Personailty and weight are two very different things.


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thanks


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i went out again.............i think this may be the one.......i hope hashems not teasing me.........


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I hope it goes well, star .


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Keep us updated - hoping for good things for you!
 
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thanks. date today...gonna tell him his positivity smiley speech hurts me cuz of past depression....


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were rooting for you!!!
 
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thanks.


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star, how's it going???


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bh ok. thanks. we went on a long date sunday and i got upset and shut down but he still stuck around and is coming to my doc tonite imyh. i think hes the one, guys!!!
please daven for me. i wish u all happiness and love.


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Good Luck, star. I'll daven for you, iyh.
 
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thanks


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Hoping and wishing the best for you Star.... davening.....

Keep us posted.
 
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ty


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imyh getting engaged tmrw. Should be thrilled but instead hurt by my own family who didn't want to drive me to the ohel to get engaged.i can't explain how hurtful that is, fnally I get my chance at happiness and they're hesitating to do one thing to get me there, after I handled shidduchim all on my own!!!!please don't defend them, I already am in my head. Then this shabbos a guest said I bet shabtai tzvi was bipolar so I said do you know anyone biploar, before you throw the term around. Btw my dad is. Then I ask do you want to play a psychology game and she laughed w everyone and said I hate psycholgy. That's like telling a cancer patient I don't believe in chemo or air. I tried to hold it in but I cried and shut down and now the hostess thinks I'm a manic idiot after my family let me down. And I texted the guy and he's not answering. If he rejects me I swear I will kill myself. I won't I just need to say how hurt I feel and am.i need a shoulder to cry on. I want to move to an island where only me and my husband live and noone can hurt me.hashem what else do you want from me?????should I sink lower in the dirt from my pain?hear me like iyov and prove all the mockers wrong.


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Hold on, star. You're doing great. Probably it is better that you distance yourself from them anyway......
 
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thanks. even my last sister said she would love to take me but not comf w how i texted my mom, when i wasin crazy pain. guys gonna come in and get me.....super nervous.


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Wow! Whirlwind of emotions Star!!! So exited for you! Really happy for you, but OUCH!!! Sounds like its not as smooth as you would like... I guess even if your getting engaged you still have to work at getting better..
Davening for you!!
Hang in there!!!! Stay strong were rooting for you!!!
 
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thanks. i hope im not making a mistake....


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So so wonderful Star - hoping and praying that it will all go well for you tomorrow!

There is no defense for your family not being there for you - but I echo that it is probably healthier for you to do this without them - It is your time now!

As for crying at the hostess' place - lots of women cry for no reason and no one thinks anything about it - crying when under stress is a normal reaction. Try to be kind to yourself with this one.

Very happy for you Star!!!!!!
 
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Yeah, I agree with everything TBear said (whatever that counts for !)
What would we do if we couldnt blame hormones? WOW! itd be a different world!!! lol!
 
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How's it going today, star???


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thank u all. bh ups and downs but me and my guy r communicting and with every hurt and then reassurance our connection gets stronger.i wish u guys cud come to my lchaim.


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I wish we all could be there, too...
But I think everyone from FS is with you in this new and exciting time.
IYH this will be just the beginning of wonderful things, with your partner supporting you and you- him, in your journey of growth in life.
Sending you ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Also sending a virtual gift box of chocolate truffles from Chocolate Charm (in Toronto -the most amazing chocolate store in North America)
Enjoy! yum
 
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awww thanks. you live in tornonto? i may be going there soon, for my bros wedding imyh.


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