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There have been very few posts here lately.
Does that mean everyone is doing well.
Unfortunately, my OCD/depression has returned and I am having trouble functioning.
It seems that I have nowhere to turn. It is ironic but I have a major simcha in my family plus some
others.
 
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Simchas can be sooo stressful. It helps if you decide to do what YOU want and ignore everything else that you think you SHOULD be doing. Hatzlacha!
 
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Thanks for the quick reply.
Actually, I am not doing very much for all of Simcha's
My wife is really doing everything.
It is just that I feel awful that I can't enjoy it because of my OCD.
Also, I am afraid that my (mental) sickness will ruin the simchas for everyone.
 
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Unfortunately, my OCD will not let up.
I am very worried about my child's upcoming wedding.
My therapist is now on extended medical leave.
I wish there was some sort of hotline or support group.
In my experience the Yitty Leibel never answers.
 
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Feeling any better today, shver?
 
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Just a little better.
Still feel a need to talk to a therapist or a support group.
 
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Can you call or email your therapist?
 
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I have his e-mail address but I don't think he will respond.
He is having surgery during this time.
 
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Email him anyway. You are making a chasuna and you deserve to be heard.
 
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I sent e-mail but I don't expect a quick reply.
Last time it took him more than two weeks to answer my e-mail.

If anyone has any suggestions e.g. therapist to contact, support group, etc
please let me know.
 
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People on Frum Support really want to help because we can relate very well to your struggle. Maybe you can share some more of your thoughts and feeelings with us.
 
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You are absolutely right KC.
The problem is I am very concerned for my family and have difficulty
posting in public some of my crazy thoughts.
My children are unaware of the issues I face.
Furthermore, my family is highly respected in the community.

I am feeling slightly better today.
Mornings at work are the most difficult times.
At night at home I usually good shape.
 
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Let's start a conversation.
How is everybody doing?
I am doing well, b'h. It took ages for the pressures of Pesach and Ben Hazmanim to lift, but now I finally feel freer. The warm weather, flowers and trees are very uplifting for me, and I try to spend a lot of time outside, ignoring my home-health is first.
How is everybody else?
 
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Thank you for restarting the conversation.
I also was doing well until yesterday. I am in the midst of a major setback and
I am extremely worried about myself.
I now have these compulsions to do different things or c"v I will be severely punished.
Some of these things are very drastic like financial issues.
Having fallen so fast has made me very depressed. One of the few positives is this forum.
 
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Hi
Hope you are doing better.
I don't know how I'm doing.
There are good things and more difficult things.
maybe the just troubling right now is that I keep on getting close to my therapist and then I pull back and hate him.
Not sure what to do with this.
 
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Am struggling today, I have to go be Menachem avel and it is making me feel very shaky
How are you doing today, shver? Any relief?
Belly, sounds pretty normal -these feelings about therapist. Are you with him a long time?.
 
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Unfortunately, things have gotten worse.
I keep seeing signs and don't know what to do.
 
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Did you find a therapist that you like?
 
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Shver, sorry to hear that things have gotten worse. Are you on meds? Hope you feel better soon.
 
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Keep climbing, how did the shiva call go?
 
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Thanks, Hopeful. It went well. Today I can look back at it and feel foolish about being so anxious on Sun. But the tension WAS REAL. And I had to take a klonipin and go with somebody -together is always better.
How are you doing?
I hope things are getting better, Shver.
 
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I had my meds changed a few weeks ago.
I think there was some improvement.
Have been with a new therapist for awhile and was actually
doing well until a week ago.
My biggest issue is that everything I read or do, I try to interpret as some message and
it is usually negative. I know with OCD I need to force myself to be exposed to whole
sorts of negative triggers. The problem is that I want to feel the habituation effect and it is not always there.
 
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Hopeful Mommy
Just wanted to tell you that I still read your book and that sometimes helps
 
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Glad the book helps!

Have you tried relaxation techniques or mindfulness? Sometimes it helps to slow down the racing thoughts. Or a tranquilizer, like Xanax.
 
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Keep climbing, the tension is always real. That's the whole problem with it.
 
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Keep climbing, I can relate to that. Had to pay a Hhiva call on Motzei Shabbos which was also giving me butterflies. I came home feeling pretty gloomy. Nichum Aveilim is a tough one.
 
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Shver, I feel for you. I hope things start looking up soon.
 
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I am feeling a little better.
Unfortunately, I just acquired a new obsession with dreams.
I keep feeling a compulsion to do hadavas chalom.
It is driving me crazy
 
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I'm sorry that you are struggling so.
I hope you have a peaceful Shabbos!
 
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My dream obsession is back again and I have strong compulsion to
do hadavs chalom. My therapist says that it just feeds the anxiety.
I am feeling depressed and hopeless.
 
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Shver, sorry to hear that things are so tough.
I feel pretty hopeless, as well. I'm on meds, some therapy. I exercise, try to eat and sleep well, reduce pressure, do enjoyable things, and I'm still hanging on by a thread sometimes. There ARE better days, b"h. and that is what keeps me going- I HOPE that tomorrow will be better.
 
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How is everyone doing? i know i haven't posted in a really long time (I'm thinking a year or more!) but I would love to reopen the conversations here on Frumsupport. I know I would benefit and I'm sure others would be helped, as well. Those who kept posting - I don't want to name anyone because of fear that I will mistakenly skip someone- kol hakavod to you!
 
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Hi people!!!!
How's life???
Missed you guys a lot!
What have you all been up to?
Has anyone been doing better lately?
I'm wondering, how long do we know each other for? How long has it been?
 
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I think I am little bit better.
I really miss the support of this group but
it seems like nobody is around.
 
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Hi! Glad to see some action over here.
How are you, Momo?
Shver, I'm glad things are getting better.
I'm doing pretty well too, b"h.
 
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I received this email from Chazkeinu:

If anyone knows of any MAN who is struggling with mental health issues or has a family member struggling and would like to take part in STARTING a support group, please send us an email at chazkeinu@gmail.com and we will put him in contact with someone who would like to get this long awaited endeavor off the ground.
 
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Hi....I just popped in and saw this thread. Having a rough time with impulse control (in regards to suicide) but so far I'm treading above water. Been working like nuts to help my kids succeed in the world. It is working but at a great price. I'm tired and worn out and feel ragged. I hope others are doing better than me.


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Oy mouse so sorry
Is there anything you can do for yourself?
A staycation day at home?
A day at a spa?
What do women do to relax and rejuvenate?
 
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I'm in a bad place emotionally
I don't think anyone would ever want to marry someone like me.

I'm a loner. I'm afraid of people. I often end up watching inappropriate things online.
Lately I've been finding it very hard to not use electronic devices on Shabbos

I'm depressed and anxious and having trouble focusing at work.

Who would ever want to marry someone as flawed at me

I'm soooo soooo sad.

I don't know where to turn
 
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Sorry to hear things are not going well for you, Momo.
Maybe you could join some shiur or learn with someone on Shabbos.
That way you will interact with people and also not have the need for using electronic devices.
 
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Not feeling very well today either. It's hard when no one around you knows how much you struggle. Let's get this group back together.
I'm sorry Momo that you're in a bad place. But it sounds like it's the MI talking, telling you that you are flawed.
And I know that is NOT TRUE. You are a very caring, responsible person. I've known you long enough to be sure of that.
 
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Thank you keep climbing!!
A relative just gave me a long talk about how I'm not ready for marriage and that talk really threw me for a loop...

Keep Climbing that's hard when no one knows how much we struggle
:-(

Is there anything that can be done about it?
 
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Groups like this one really help. Also I joined Chazkeinu recently and sometimes go to Paramus for the peer support group. I don't think I could survive without this support.
 
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I'm back again. I thought about what you said MoMo....I don't know if I need to rewind or if I need to find somehing to do. Getting tempted to get involved in chesed projects. I don't know if you are still having hard time but if you are keep strong. We ALL have our challenges -- religiously, emotionally, socially.....The best we can do is meet those challenges at the level we are in and try to fight them. It's hard but if you don't aspire to be perfect but just better than you currently are then you are getting somewhere. I hope that helps you. It helps me just saying it.


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So true mouse!!
It's not about being perfect, perfection doesn't exists!!!
All we can do is try little by little to take some positives steps...
Mouse I'm also working on getting involved in chessed when I"m free..
In a way it's amazing how people that are struggling themselves want to help others!
 
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I think the reason why ppl who are struggling want to help others is that it brings them out of their own world and into someone else's. When we realize it isn't all about us (though we may not think that outright many ppl do think a lot about themselves and their situation) we do need to think about something other than our own struggles. I personally don't like to see someone else struggle so I'll probably help someone who is only quasi struggling....someone pregnant that needs meals or just had a baby and needs meals and so forth -- where the "struggle" surrounds a simcha.


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I especially want to help people who are struggling with MI. Then I feel that my suffering has a purpose- I can use it to understand and empathize with people who are going through unimaginable pain. And sometimes, I can tell myself afterwards, Look, you said so yourself (to someone else) and I will believe it. Like, a few days ago Momo wasn't doing well and felt inadequate, flawed.... and I was able to tell him with 100pct conviction that it was Mi talking. Now I'm feeling really flawed and inadequate myself and am trying to convince myself that it's all coming from this crazy illness.
 
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Wow - was thinking about you guys today and popped in.... good to see some comments, sorry to see folks struggling.

I am struggling but I think it is part of the growth - please G-d!

Sending care and good thoughts ... Chanukah is supposed to be a good time for prayers - for miracles. Would be nice to see some healing miracles, wouldn't it!?
 
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Oh yeah!!
We can use a lot of healing miracles!!
 
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We could all use miracles in our lives....different ones for different people. Miracles happen daily though and we should recognize and appreciate the little ones too!!!


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