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TOPIC TITLE: Harsh on myself
Created On 8/29/12 1:44 PM
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Cutiestarr
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8/29/12 1:44 PM
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Hi Dr Lynn,

Do you have any tips for people who are very harsh in themselves?
Thank you.
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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8/29/12 5:57 PM
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One exercise is to imagine you are someone else. Like your best friend. What would you tell him/her? Would you judge them the same way?
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Cutiestarr
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Similar to what you said:

"Many of us operate on a double standard. When we're feeling upset, we criticize ourselves relentlessly and rip ourselves to shreds. But if we were talking to a dear friend with the exact same problem, we'd be far kinder and more objective. Give up your double standard and treat all human beings, including yourself, with one standard based on compassion."
-David Burns
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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9/3/12 1:05 PM
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Did you try it? Was it helpful?
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Cutiestarr
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Yes, I stopped being so harsh on myself after hearing your advice.
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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9/5/12 2:52 PM
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B"H
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