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TOPIC TITLE: Dealing with the small stuff
Created On 10/6/13 8:53 AM
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Cutiestarr
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10/6/13 8:53 AM
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Hello Dr. Lynn,

I notice a real difference in highly successful people as compared to others.

There are things that are truly not a big deal in life, and are not any sort of emergency. However, it is all what we make of it.

I would like to be a type of person where nothing really bothers me. I think it is an admirable quality, and I was wondering what practical steps I can take to get there.

One thing I can think of is that people are in different moods every day. People can be rude, and then others feel hurt, but maybe it's a matter of a sick family member, life circumstances, etc. - nothing personal.

Thank you for answering my question
 
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Dr. Lynn, Psy.D.
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10/17/13 11:35 AM
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Cutie,
I really appreciate your question. For me, it is central to develop emunah. When I have the ability to remind myself that everything that happens to me comes from Hashem, that helps me not to be so affected by the up's and down's of the day. The question is: How do I respond when people are mean, provocative, etc.?
a lynn
 
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Cutiestarr
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10/28/13 5:00 PM
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Small thing I noticed that helps me: giving people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes my expectations of others can be too high, or I can be needy. When I remember it is not all about me but that there are many factors in a person's life that can make them behave the way they do, I start to judge them more favorably and this helps me feel less frustrated with other people.
You asked a good question about how to respond when people are mean or provocative. What are your techniques? I'm looking forward to hearing from you since I like a lot of the things you say on this website
 
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