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Edith
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2/6/08 11:35 AM
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My 3 yr. old son has been complaining of nightmares. i usually put him to bed at about 7 p.m., but recently he started waking up every night at abotu 10 p.m. crying for my husband to come and lie in bed with him until he falls asleep. he can sometimes be up for 3 hours! Any suggestions?
 
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2/6/08 7:35 PM
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lots of talk about EMUNAH - that hashem is watching him etc & nothing can happen....

Its very normal for kids to wake up like that.. the smaller deal you make of it, the smaller deal iit is. ( I mean infront of him!)

Perhaps leaving door open or small light on?
 
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we do leave the door open, and leave the light on in the hallway. we also put on a tape for him to listen to as he falls asleep.
it's hard to know if he's really scared, or just using it as an excuse to stay up cuz he doesn't want to go to sleep.
 
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I'm assuming you do say Shema with him at night. It always helps keep my bad dreams away!

Remind him of the Siddur in his room, and the mezuzah on his door, and see if it helps.

My father used to tell me as a kid to think of Mickey Mouse, which could have been scary, but sometimes its just a matter of thinking pleasant thoughts.


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i have tried this also.

i'm wondering, is it mean of me to maybe let him cry - it would probably last about 2 nights, and then be over - maybe that is the only solution?
 
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I think it is kinda mean. Has anything changed during the day that is possibly frightening him, but he's not addressing it during the day, and it "comes out" at night? New sibling, new day care, moved house? I don't know, or maybe even small things like another child coming into daycare/preschool, something that's unsettling to him? Maybe you can talk to him about it.


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he says that he is having a bad dream about "bad goyim" coming. this started happeining since someone told him a story about the holocaust with the nazis.

i'm not sure what to do - we have explained that the nazis are all dead and that Hashem has punished them. also, that Hashem protects us all the time, and that Mommy and Daddy are also always here, etc.

i don't kow what else to do!
 
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Who tells a little kid about that? Oysh!

I guess you'll have to come up with other stories to tell him. Holocaust stories give nightmares to EVERYONE.


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Maybe you can do some "play therapy" and have him draw out the scene with crayons and then draw the "solution"-Hashem sending an angel to kill them etc...whatever appeals to him. This helps him get it out of his system in a concrete way. It works well for other trauma like car accidents so it might work here. good luck.


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