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Created On 1/16/05 12:38 PM
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motcha
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1/16/05 12:38 PM
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You are obviously putting tremendous mesiras nefesh into updating and upgrading this site and Hashem should bless you.
Regarding keeping things in correct catagories, its a little complicated when it comes to mental health because to a certain degree people with mental health problems get overlapping conditions. This is called comorbidity. Thus, many people have both depression and anxiety. Also, the challanges faced by people with mental illness are simmilar. Obviously, a person with depression should not post in skin disease but withing mental health there needs to be some flexability. Hope you don't feel I'm nitpicking.
 
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lookinforhelp
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1/16/05 3:22 PM
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The website just became a little too complicated, period.
Not that we don't appreciate the effort... Yashar koach! But now the folders aren't turning blue when there are new posts! Maybe it's just something wrong with my computer. Just thought I would bring it up though.
Thanks!
 
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1/16/05 3:40 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that you are dissapointed. We needed to reorganize the categories because it was getting hard to find stuff and we were constantly getting requests to add more specific categories. I think you will get used to it pretty quickly and you will come to appreciate the neatness of the site.

The blue folders should still work (although it was never absolutely realiable as I've seen new posts that didn't change to blue). Also, a quick tip, you can click on the any of the sub-categoies directly from the the home page which will save you from drilling down every time you want post or read.

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lookinforhelp
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1/18/05 6:48 PM
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Ok, I'm finally getting used to it... Btw, I love the "navigation" button. It's so easy to access anything and everything on the site!
 
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chanieF
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2/28/05 1:33 AM
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wonderful site with many, many conditions addressed! very impressive. yasher koach.

would consider adding rosacea to dermatology.
also (maybe there is a forum and i missed it???) headaches, such as migraines, cluster headaches etc.
perhaps also IBS to gastroenterology.
 
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The Power Of Prayer
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4/6/05 2:17 AM
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Hi! I would like to share an idea that I believe would truly benefit many of the singles out there who are having a difficult time in the shidduch world due to a physical or emotional condition. I truly believe that if we can set something up in order to bring singles together with all different kinds of issues be it minor or more serious, this might help bring people together because both individuals are capable of understanding at a deeper level as they also struggle with a condition of some sort. If there could be a singles "connection" for individuals experiencing different types of issues, I feel that this might be what so many people need.

Unfortunately, as time goes by, and the struggle continues on in search of right partner who can understand and accept these challenges (although every single human being has his/her own challenges in life), but if two people can open up to one another and see if there might be a chance to form a relationship with the hope of marriage, this would save many singles from spending the rest of their lives alone. Nobody should have to watch as everyone else around them gets married as they get older and older and begin to worry about the chance of having children.

Everyone has issues, everyone struggles. Nobody is perfect, and the truth is that even if someone looks like they have it all together on the outside, nobody knows what that person is dealing with in his/her personal life. In addition, even people who have SEVERE challenges or serious life threatening conditions, get married, so why should there be singles who are above average even if they may have a minor health condition, sit around waiting to build a life with someone. Obviously, there are older singles all over the world that will say they have not found their bashert yet, so it isn't really about whether or not the person has some health issue or not. Because each individual brings both good and not so good aspects to a relationship.

Regardless of all this, the reason why it may be helpful to bring singles together specifically those individuals who do in fact have some type of diagnosed condition. As long as they can verify that they are currently stable medically, then it would be a good idea to form some type of shidduch website, but it should not be advertised that it is for people with health related conditions because that would make people want to stay away from such a thing. Nobody wants to attach themselves with a label and if everyone knew that the shidduch website was only for those with "problems" I'm not sure how successful it might be. As far as how I would feel on a personal level, I would honestly feel like I'm joining a group of "aliens" I know that is horrible to say, but I don't like to think of myself as someone with a "condition". I guess what I'm trying to say is that there should be some type of connection for singles to discuss their challenges and see if maybe something can develop for the purpose of marriage. Actually maybe it might be good to add on to frumsupport and form a "chat" or some other way for singles to connect with each other and still maintain their privacy unless they choose to give out e-mails, etc in order to get to know someone on a more personal level. OK Well, what do you think about this? Is there a way to get something started.

On a personal level, I would really like this to work because I know what it feels like to be single and struggling in the shidduch world. I am now 28 yrs. old and I am starting to fear that I might be too old to have children if I don't get married within the next few years. If I never had a child, my life would feel so empty and meaningless. I know that I would be the most exceptional mother because I love children and interact so well with them. I have gone out with many guys and was even almost engaged, but I broke things off. There have been a number of guys who wanted to get into a more serious relationship, but I did not feel the same towards them. Even though someone might have some health issue, does not mean that guys are not interested in them. The truth is that it can very well be the opposite. Sometimes as a result of one's condition, they might actually be somewhat of a perfectionist and also might be afraid to get married. So, there can be very intelligent, good looking, special individuals who have not yet found that right person yet.

I know that I really need a guy who can understand and be supportive. So, I believe that if we both could share together in our struggles, we would be able to have a stronger bond then someone who could not relate. So, this is why I really would like to see people having a chance to get in touch with men/women who can be sympathetic and understanding of the situation for tachlus purposes.
Please let me know your feelings about what I wrote here.
PS I think that I might have been wrong with regard to having a specific site for those with health related issues. If it is done in a respectful manner and presented the right way, then to say it is for specific singles who are dealing or have dealt with some form of issue wouldn't be so bad. I guess we just have to remove the stigma and realize that there just may be someone who could be the right person for us and with g-d's help, it just might lead to the chupah!
Thank-you.
The Power Of Prayer
 
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