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TOPIC TITLE: dealing with parents with altshiemer
Created On 1/16/05 1:17 PM
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altashlicheni
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1/16/05 1:17 PM
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Hi
The topic of Altshiemer is very close to my heart. For the first few years of my marriege as a young kalah of 20 thats the first time i knew what was althiemer . You see the first year on my marriege we started seeng changes in my father in law and we didnt understand what was happening to him. My husband is an only child and was very concerned with his fathers behaviar , suddenly he would not remeber things or when he would go out of the house he would get lost and have strangers find his home . or he would dress himself with his cloth upside down. When one day on erev shabbas he disapeared and we didnt find him for 24 hours we knew that we had to take him to the doc who told us that he has Althiemer. Dealing with an Altshiemer person is one of the most difficult jobs there is especially that my father in law was still very young and did not understand what we wanted from him you see he was not aware of his situation. As the year went by his health got worse and it got so bad that my mother in law was not able to handle him any more so we took him into our home He lived with us for the next 2 years and we did all we can to help him but he needed 24 hours supervition beacuse if we didnt keep an eye on him for even a minute he would step out of the house and get lost . My father in law was not an american citizan and we didnt have any insurance for him and there were nearly no help of support groups at that time for this illness. It was very difficult we couldnt efford 24 hour help or even concider puting him in a home we got a little help from bikur cholim who send us someone to take him for a walk every day and gave us a little breathing time. But as time got by he got worse and worse and we just were not able to handle taking care of him together with triying to raize a family. We took our father in law back to his wife and gave her the help she needed My husband or myself would go everyday to help. and explained that we have no choice but she has to help us out that she cannot run away from her obligaition. Unfortunatly that time that he was back home did not last long and he had an accident one day when he opened on himself hot water in the bath tub and got burned very badly and died a few days later in the hospital.
If you are in a situation that you are taking care of an elderly parent with Altshiemer please get all the help that you can dont do it alone it is a very draining time and when you see that you are not able to take it anymore you should find a place for the parent where he can get good care and at least live the rest of his life as he is comfortandly .
 
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GamZuLetovah
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1/16/05 3:22 PM
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altashlicheni,

I'm very sorry to hear this very sad story. I understand that my comment might unfortunately be too late but maybe it might help for others in similar situations.

My grandfather amu"sh has the same problem of wandering out of the house and getting lost. Someone in the family came up with this great idea which works very well, we put a combination lock on both sides of the door and we didn't tell him the combination number this way he cannot leave the house by himself.


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lookinforhelp
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1/16/05 3:28 PM
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Altashlicheni, I am so sorry for your loss. I know it doesn't compare, but I worked in a nursing home for a number of years and there are patients with whom I have become close with that suffer from alzheimers. It is a horrible disease. My great-grandmother had it as well. It was like one time I went to visit her, and she didn't know who I was. It is so painful. I can only hope that by the time I hit that age there will be better meds.
 
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Torsalicious613
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11/20/05 7:49 PM
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my grandfather died of alzheimers. i am very sad.

atara


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